Anyone else worry about their husband's co workers?

I'm on the other side of the fence. I'm in sales and occasionally have to travel with women who I work with and have several customers who are women who I may have lunch with for example. I will also occasionally have to spend a couple of nights out of town. My wife and I have never really talked about it, but I don't think she is real comfortable with it either.

The truth is that I could have cheated many times if I wanted to, but I never have. It didn't feel right. I trust my wife completely and want to be worthy of that same level of trust from her.

You can never keep your mind from wondering what your husband is doing and imagining the worst. That's human nature. The bottom line is that if you trust him, then you just have to trust him.

It's actually the reverse at our house, but I know I would struggle with it if I was the wife at home, but for us, my husband is self employed, and I work in sales in a business where the majority of the sales force is male, and probably once every three months or so I have to ride in a car about 4 hours away with male colleagues. My husband is very understanding, and we have a great marriage, but I can't say that it would be so easy if it was the other way around.

It sounds like your trust level has been lowered after the ex husband's exploits and the seemingly tenuous situation with your current husband. Work relationships can be touchy. These are people he must spend time with and I am sure it is to his advantage professionally to have a friendly relationship with them. Some things in life are unavoidable. He has to work and there are women there. That is with any industry. How the two of you handle it is a different story There will always be opportunity, but it is up to him whether he cheats and up to you whether or not you are going to allow the thoughts of what might happen ruin your relationship.

Yes... I don't have to deal with the overnight hotel stays like you do, thank GOD (man I feel for you), but he does have to go to work late sometimes, there are frequent meetings, and he and his coworkers do fun things outside of work like group bike rides, go-kart races and such (he works as a computer programmer for a large company btw) and this always makes me nervous. I have been cheated on in both my serious relationships before him, and I KNOW this affects how I see things. It's smart of you to recognize this in your marriage. Is there any way at all that you could go with him one of these times? Or make a surprise romantic visit? How's your sex life normally? That would be a good indicator of whether or not you have something to worry about.

I am a woman who works with mostly male , we do have meetings both within the city and away and sometimes stay for days away from work , but in my case there is definitely nothing going on with any of them except work. I would say it would vary from person to person

Your question is an insult to all working women whose jobs require them to work with men. Don't use your own standards to judge others. If YOU, as a married woman would be tempted to sleep with your married co-worker after a 5 hour drive, then that's YOUR problem.

This is no good, he should bring you along, forget his ego and proudly bring you. i believe many women today would make the initiative to become intimate, even if the man din't. This kind of senario is just begging for trouble, every motel/hotel has a lounge and that is they end up having drinks, talking, then flirting. Talk to a pastor, you need help dealing with this.

Well whats the relationship like right now sexually? do you feel it's lacking? maybe try and spice things up a bit! If he seems uninterested then there may be something going on?

that's a close call to make,plenty of concerns lingering there,no proof, no worries!!......just saying !!