Moral dilemma: boyfriend or best friend?

I also have no clue why a gay guy would want to bring a girl to a gay bar. Either it's a guy-gay bar, and you will be an odd thumb, or you're going to get hit on by gay girls. You'll spend your entire night trying to explain why you are there if you aren't interested in girls.

(TRUST me on this one!)

At the same time, your boyfriend IS being rather silly, to be jealous of a gay man. Watch that ego/jealousy of his. It may end up being something you're not willing to cater to.

Your gay friend may or may not be right about your boyfriend, that is for you to decide. You also need to decide if it's any of his business to be talking to you like that about your boyfriend.

Is he being disrespectful about you and your relationship?

Is he being honest and really concerned about your relationship with a controlling man?

Or is he just being a b--- tch because you might decide to not go with him?

Here's your answer, though, in your own words- "I personally dont really want to go to the bar because I dont feel its right to do that to my boyfriend"

Okay then, as your best friend, the gay guy should respect your feelings on it. And regardless of if your boyfriend is being controlling, you should do what YOU think is best for a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.

"but my best friend would be so mad at me if I ditched out on him."

Then he's not much of a friend. Friends don't guilt trip friends into doing stuff. And they don't get mad at friends who do what they think is right. Controlling people do that.

So, who's really the controlling guy in your life?

I don' t know, of course, but I think you should consider the question.

Maybe it's not jealousy of "a man", but that your boyfriend is sensing how much the gay guy controls you?

Again, I don't know, but you should think on this stuff.

There. Now you have something to do with your night! Heh!

Go out with the GIRLS and get help hashing this out!

Just kidding (unless it does sound like a good idea).

My thrust is that you shouldn't let either tell you what to do, and if they push you, they aren't respecting you.

You say that really don't want to go to the bar right? Do you not want to go cuz you don't want to go to the gay bar itself or is it to not upset your boyfriend? I could understand in a sense why your boyfriend might not want you there cuz you are in a committed relationship and not all the guys there will be gay there will be a few Bi ones as well most likely. ( just because your man is ok with your friend being gay doesn't mean he wants to go to the bar himself ether even if you did invite him, it could make him uncomfy at the prospect of being hit on) You could always try to find a happy medium and go out to a place all three of you might like. That way your not ditching ether guy!

I can't quite understand why a gay guy would want to bring a girl with him to a gay bar. Maybe a group of equal numbers of guys and girls, to sit at a table together, but not just the two of you.

Clear the idea with your boyfriend, and then promise your gay friend that you and your boyfriend will go, if he can get another guy and a couple of girls to make up a party of six. My prediction is that the logistics of that idea will prove to be so much trouble that it won't happen.

I would tell the boyfriend that if he doesn't like it, he can come along with the gay friend and you. If he doesn't want to go, then he can't really get mad at you for going when you invited him.

Boyfriends come and go but best friends are there when you need them. Especially when you have an insecure, possessive boyfriend who is jealous and feels threatened when you spend time with your friends.

Go with your friend. Your boyfriend has some growing up to do.

well, you're dating your boyfriend and not your best friend. If neither person understands, someone is going to get ditched. It's inevitable. If you treasure your best friend more, then risk problems with the boyfriend or vice versa.

If she already is conscious he's your ex, then you quite do no longer could desire to tell until she asks. If she asks you approximately your ex, do no longer tell a lot basically say " be careful approximately that guy". If she is a clever woman, she is conscious what to do. if no longer, you waste time for that guy or woman. She won't understand untill she is in that worry

Not much to it. Are you committed to your boyfriend or to your gayfriend?

A major problem with young couples these days: the lack of commitment!

Let your gayfriend find a gayfriend to go with, or let your boyfriend know you are lukewarm about him anyway and just stringing him along.

If you have to ask the whole world about such a simple issue you have problems; an by the way, if I was your boyfriend, and aware of your dilemma, I would ditch you quick smart.

Draw your own conclusion about go or no go!

You are dating, not married. You may socialize with whom you please where you please.

My best advice is to invite your boyfriend to come with you. If he is worried about you being in a (gay) bar with a (gay) guy, he can come also.

Do you want to go?

Honestly, you're boyfriend sounds a little insecure to be jealous of you going to a gay bar.

I vote, go if you want to!