Does anyone know or preferably know a link for the Arabic translation for this?

i do not know this duaa

but anyway

this is the sunnah on the first night of marriage

this in arabic

http://www.islamqa.com/ar/ref/1696/%D8%A7%D9%84%D8...

this in english

http://www.islamqa.com/en/ref/1696/%D8%A7%D9%84%D8...

salam

When the newly wed couple come into their bedroom, firstly salam should be made and the following dua should be read:

'Allahumma in'ni as'a'luka min khai'riha wakhai'ri ma fiha wakhairi ma jabalta'ha alai wa a'udhu bika min shar'riha washar'ri ma fiha wa sharri ma jabalta'ha alai'

Tran: 'O Allah I ask you for the good in her and the good with which you have created her, and I seek refuge in you from the evil in her and the evil with which you have created her'

(Bukhari, Abu Dawud, Ibn Maja, Al Hakim, Al Baihaqi and Abu Ya'la)

Then after making wudhu, two rakaats of Salatul' Hajat must be performed, and dua be made for a good and happy life that Allah bestow them (the couple) with good and pious children.

Then they should engage themselves in some religious talk showing importance to the obedience of Allah's commands and , through wisdom and tact, become more free and open in the discussion, trying to discover each other's temperament. As sexual inclinations vary with every individual, the bride and the bridegroom will have to display patience with each other. Sexual union on the first night of marriage is not the most important thing between the couple. Their first intimate association gives them an opportunity to know each other more closely, to assess each other's feelings and attitudes. With some brides excitement, expectations or fear of intimate union brings about a reluctance in performing sexual union.

The bridegroom should regard this moment as an opportunity to show his consideration for her tender feelings, to demonstrate that sex is a secondary aspect of marriage and that her health and feelings men more to him.

Sometimes, out of bashfulness or consideration for the brides feelings, the groom may also show reluctance to be sexually intimate. Then it is the bride's turn to display her appreciation and tolerance towards him.

Taken from Kitabun Nikah By the Author of 'Gift for the Women' (Issues on Menstrual periods) Maulana Muhammad Ibrahim Palanpuri

alaykum salaam. You will find it insha'allaah in a good book on marriage etiquettes. Not much help, I know... :P

okay, I dont really like talking about this in public but i just have to make a comment... regarding "Sometimes, out of bashfulness or consideration for the brides feelings, the groom may also show reluctance to be sexually intimate."

Sometimes, this reluctance can show the person to be gay, as it exposed one 'brother' to a cousin sister of ours.... he actually was gay and that dissolved the marriage.. wallahul-musta'aan !

its in the nature of women to be shy when their nature isn't corrupted, wallahu-a'lam....men don't neccessarily have to follow that way but rather, they can and probably should, wallahualam, take the lead in some matters....

Sorry if I offended anyone. Allaah knows best.

@salma

afreen tera chehra

afreen teri aankhein

afreen tera manzar

afreen teri batein

tera pyar pana hai

chahe jo ho

sath to nibhana hai

chahe jo ho

@lulu

are u an indian??

i am from hyderabad

u from?

what do u do?

@pink

oh u a mallu great

have u visited hyd before?

and yes my head is right why asking that?

@nikhil: kuch problem hai? ser ko maar pady?

m not hyderbady...Mallu...dont get pissed if i spoilt the lango

Salma answered you i think

just wanna tell all of u

salam alaikum

@nikhil: nahi..aise hi..just tested my lango..good u understood..

btw i dunno malayalam either..!! i havent bee...but next year we're planning to go to hyderbad..frm ther to m'lore den to kararkode! insha-Allah

what's with the himesh reshammiya?