Has your husband ever cheated when you never thought he would?

Yep, after 22 years of marriage! We divorced, and he married her 6 1/2 months later. There is no way to tell, even happy marriages can fall apart.

OH NO!!! Seems eerily familiar... I was 15 when we started dating. He was a V...I not so much. I thought my hubby was a shy guy...when I was 17 we married right outta high school. When we were together around six years he cheated but I didn't know. It was a two night thing with a girl from out of state.He told me years later. So I stayed thinking well it was years ago and he was a V! Then last year I found out he had been cheating with a coworker. We have been married for 18 years. I am still dumbfounded at the fact that he could do that to me. I NEVER EVER EVER thought my shy non social husband would hurt the one person in the world he loved the most.

Here are some signs I later realized:

hiding of cell...charging "at work or in car"

extended hours at work ( salary so didn't realize )

not looking me in the eyes<<<<<<@@>>>>>>

wanting to sell our home

private calls elsewhere ( again didn't notice because he is sober and spoke with his sponsor )

not caring or listening to what I said

not wanting to do anything around the house

ironing clothes...working out...loss of weight ~changes in appearance

Amy, I understand that you are having dreams. But in reality, if you took this issue to court, it wouldn't go pass the judge. You have to have sound proof that your husband is cheating. Although, he may be cheating, right now. It's your word against his. Trust me if he's doing something in the dark, eventually, it will come into light. I also had dreams about mines and it became reality. I forgave him and still went through the same things until I left.

But I don't want you to over react. Stay calm and be you until the truth reveals itself. And even if you don't know the signs, you'll know it by the change of his attitude and your gut feelings. But even then, you still have to have proof.

Good luck and I hope everything work out for your family.

Most guys that cheat actually want to get caught. They go out of their way for their spouse out of guilt. They have an unknown number on their cell phone. They make excuses to stay out late, or be too long at the store or running errands. They back off on sex with their wives because they are getting it elsewhere. Every time the phone rings they jump, thinking it could be the other woman and the party's over. There are condoms in his wallet or glove compartment. Lipstick on his collar or a strange perfume on his jacket lapel. Dreaming about your man with another woman is a sign of your insecurity not his infidelity. Any immoral person male or female can cheat. It could be with a cashier at the market, the girl next door, or your sister when she stops by and your not home, the mechanic where she has her car repaired. If its in you its in you if it's not it's not. Is everything ok at home, are you two still having sex and is the passion still there? Does he like to spend time with you and his son? If yes, I think you are worrying for nothing. Stay in shape, make sure you make time for him, be bubbly and luscious and he will always want to come home to you.

just b/c you had a dream doesn't mean he is. but in my case i was having dreams and had a feeling that he did, he was the shy backwards type of guy never thought he would do it to me and he did on 2 or 3 separate occasions and told me while i was 6 months pregnant with our son, and he was drunk when he told me. but we over came it and are closer then ever. i don't think there is a way you can really tell but your woman's intuition is how i knew. but no i don't think your husband is cheating. stress of a new baby can make you think crazy thoughts. good luck

Dreams have meanings behind them. Look up your dream and see what the meaning is behind it. It might make you feel better and you won't need to worry about the signs of cheating.

Well, I had a shy type whife who did. The problem is, she's a follower, not a leader, and can be easily influenced, especially by a persistent co-worker. If he's shy he may also be weak willed.

Just because you had a dream that your husband cheated on you does not mean that he did. Dreams are symbiotic of our own emotions and fears. Don't base your husband's fidelity on a dream.

My ex was head over stinkin heels for me. Granted we weren't married. We lived together tho. He was really shy and then BAM I found out he was doing some whore behind my back. The worst part was she knew we lived together, and did it anyway.

The signs of a cheater: emotional immaturity, lack of honor, and inadequate self-discipline. I know this because, many years ago, I cheated on my wife. Thankfully, I have grown up a lot since then! Shyness has nothing to do with it. If your husband is emotionally mature, honorable, and reasonably self-disciplined, he will not cheat on you.