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Ever love so bad that it hurts and you're scared?
Have you ever loved someone so much that you were too scared and you sorta chickened out and drove them away, and then you couldnt forget about them, and still tried to get them back. But everytime you try to get them back, when they seem to come back or are showing interest, you freak out again and ignore them or too scared to pick their calls or talk to them?
This is happening to me right now. I have a bf now, but I used to date a guy i actualy fell in love with. I cant get him out of my head, it hurts so bad that I ruined it when we were together by being too scared, almost indirectly chasing him away. And then 2 months passed, i texted him, he called me back a couple times and i didnt pick up cause I was scared and loved him too much.
another month went by and I rang him again and he rang back the next day twice, and I didnt pick up the phone, this hurts badly and im scared. How can I act like this with the only one person i ever truly love and think about everyday?
I dont care as much for my current bf or any other guy as much as i care about this guy
WHAT DO I DO? WHATS HAPPENING TO ME????
11 Answers
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
well. lets just say i went through the same thing almost. i had a boyfriend for 11 months. we got really serious and i freaked out! i left him. i just ended it. but then 2 weeks went by and i realized i loved him. with everything i had.
If you love him as much as it sounds like you do. then you have to answer his calls. if you dont love your new boyfriend then you do this other guy. then you cant be with him. you cant lead him on if you love another guy. its unfair to both of you.
But you need to tell this guy that you really like him. DOnt be scared. you love him. its time to show him the real you and be open!
good luck!
- 1 decade ago
Ask yourself this 1 question? What am I afraid of when he calls me, was the relationship good when you were involved with your ex BF, and
did he mistreat you, or was he caring and loving with respect for you and your wishes?
If you can answer that multi stage question with a answer of: He was loving and caring, respecting my wishes. Then you have nothing to be afraid of. Talk to him and let your feelings be known.
If he was abusive then you have something to fear. Getting involved with someone who is abusive now will only start an never ending cycle of abuse toward you, you don't need this and you should not get involved with this person.
Source(s): 34 years of Psychological Nursing experience. - Anonymous1 decade ago
There are many differant types of love, the type you are going through is called romantic love. It typically lasts from 6 to 24 months. This type of love usually ends in three ways...
The love is reciprocated and you live "happily ever after" (or until the romantic love is over and you realize he is not perfect)
The love is unrequited and you fall into depression
The love is unrequited and you "transfer" your feelings to someone else.
It sounds like the road you take is up to you. Have some courage or keep holding on to your regrets.
- incognitoLv 41 decade ago
YEA! And the sad thing is that we ended up breaking up. I would have done anything to stay with him, but it didn't work out that way.
I decided to take some time for me. It's been 10 months now and I finally decided I am ready to date again. I feel whole again.
It takes time, but you'll get there. Good luck.
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- Anonymous1 decade ago
If you want the prize, you must face your deepest fears & go for what you want! Confusion is the only result when your not taking control of your situation!
- kimLv 71 decade ago
You seriously need to pray everday and read scripture. Live for God and ask him to lead you to your husband. Worked for me.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
if your too scared to talk do it via text or email, the benefits of this is that you get to sit there think about it before you type what you want to say, plus you can erase and edit as you please...
- 1 decade ago
its all right .
when u love some one more u vll get the courage to come upto them
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Idk.
Maybe you got a disorder.
