Wife is against giving money to my parents?

This arrangement was established prior to your marriage and worked well for you. If you are positive that you will be inheriting the property investments upon their demise then leave things as they are. If you are listed as a joint owner at this point and God forbid your marriage should fail then your wife will be entitled to half the value of that property because it was acquired during the marriage. Unless the monies you contribute is robbing you both of the income for your maintenance then continue to contribute. In the long run you are investing in yourself anyway. Your wife needs to stay out of this as her selfishness will inevitably be destructive to the relationship you have with your parents.

Be warned she will probably throw a tantrum and pout and hold a grudge until she gets her way. Stand firm now and she will soon learn to leave that topic alone.

My dear your parent gave you birth, they made you grow up, given enough education and made you a man. Then only your wife of 1.5 year got you as husband. Think If your parents would have tried to keep money by not letting you to educate and to become present position, would you be able to propose a girl like your wife? or if you were a coolie or an autorikshaw driver would your wife and her parents have accepted you as their husband or SIL? A big no is the answer. So when your parents are in need you have to help them indeed. Ignore the blah blah of wife for the time being. Gradually she will realize the thing and will be cooled down.

Another important notice: Never ever try to become a mediator between your parents and their DIL. Just be a detached observer (impartial observer). Do what you feel is right. Can be right May be wrong. But decision maker and the benefactor will be you only. Be brave. Now a days girls are becoming more and more selfish and aggressive.

Sounds like your parents have been very generous to you in your adult years and the way they have handled their finances thus far will leave you quite comfortable when they pass. If it's worked for the three of you this long, it seems odd that your new wife would want to to come in and change things. Are you having to cut back and is she denied buying something because you need to help your parents from time to time?

Some women just get selfish and greedy. Perhaps you have found yourself one of these women. Does she work and put her own money into this? Let her keep her money and you do what you need to do with your parents. I can't even imagine telling my husband he could not help his parents out. I think it would be the beginning of the end of our marriage.

listen ... am a girl... and am telling you .. its your money and u can spend it any which way u please... your wife has to understand that you have other responsibilities apart from her....and you dont have to ask permission every time you need to do them.

Firstly ... do what u think is right without thinking about what your wife would say or do... face it when it happens... and when she fights about it tell her that they are your family too and you not only have to but want to help them out. try to make her feel secure saying that you love her and she's still high in your priority list and you will not abandon her for your parents and she has to let go for her insecurities for you guys to live happily... be nice and calm and dont shout back when she does.

And if nothing works .... am sorry to say .. really sorry to say... that its better to leave the relationship... if she cant understand such basic stuff how r u guys to be happy the rest of your lives??

There's an old hindi saying (am not sure u know hindi ) " somewhat ko ishara kafi he" if she doesnt understand when u tell her once or twice... dont expect her to understand at all... move on when there is still time.

Good Luck

Arrrgh! You are a MAN! I understand you love your wife, but it's YOUR family, that was with you for decades!! How much did they pay to care for you? How much did they love you unconditionally? How long has she been with you? Some years? And why doesn't she behave like a lover and more like a banker?

Do what YOU feel is best with your family. Do you stick your nose into her family business just as she does in yours?

Her attitude is strange and opportunistic. I think you should impose yourself more - of course verbally. I'm not saying she doesn't love you, but keep in mind.

Romantic ideals of love have ruined many lives, because they trusted people that betrayed them and took everything away from them.

Protect your goods in paper, even if you trust her. Whatever happens, never sign anything risky. No matter how much you love your wife.

Few people really commit to a relationship forever. Unfortunately... But that is human nature. So play by those rules. Not some dreams and wishes.

If she gets angry, tell her you love her and see no point in such papers and you feel hurt that she changes her attitude toward you for some silly papers. That you are a couple that loves each other and that marriage is a symbol, not a contract... You get the idea... Test her with what she's testing you.

Good luck.

Sorry if I was rude or extreme in some points. But I'm sure you can extract the good of what I mean.

I have to agree with your wife. You are married now and you and your wife should be planning on how to spend and save money together.

Even though you will be the sole inheritor of their property it does not mean that you should be contributing to your parent's support. If they need money they could always sell off one of the houses. That way you would be helping them financially indirectly since otherwise you would have inherited the house. And none of your current or future earned income would be needed by them. I'm also wondering - do they really need financial assistance from you or are you just offering it to them? Which, of course, doesn't really matter. What matters is that you and your wife disagree and seem to be in dire need of assistance.

A lot of marriages end eventually because couples cannot agree on finances and how to handle them. You hardly need a marriage counselor but you might want to consider the two of you meeting with a money manager to prevent further problems and to show you how you can work together - and not drift apart. Otherwise, if you continue as you are now, you will not remain married much longer. Remember why you married her and that you should be "clinging" to her (to use a good old biblical term) now.

Also I'm on the side of both of you. You love each other and deserve to be happy. So get to that objective third party asap!

i am not against you helping your parents in the least, but i will try and give you a wifes point of view. my husband and i help his mother out as much as possible, and i am more then happy that we can help her when she needs it. But there are some hurt feelings because his mom is his soul beneficiary (spelling? sorry) It does not make me mad that she is, and i really could care less about the money, and we are verry happy together, but i get hurt sometimes because i feel like he doesnt trust me enough to make me his beneficiary, or that maybe he thinks we will not last or something. so maybe she is just feeling hurt that you don't respect her opinions being as you are married now, you should be taking care of each other rather then your parents, although like i said i am more then happy to help out my mother in law when she needs it. But i susspect it is more about her not feeling apreciated that you respect her opinion. They are your parents and i think your wife does have a good point that you could go in on the properties with them. if you care about your parents well being and you know your not going to be ripping them off there is no reason this wouldn't work. My mother in law puts my husband on everything. and not only does it work out okay, but it makes it easier to help out either party when that time comes. i don't know if this will help you or not, but maybe try telling your wife her opinion does matter to you, and try to understand her side. You can do whatever you like, i am not your boss, but maybe just showing her you understand and appriciate her input rather then fighting that would help a little bit. But i don't agree when your parents say they dont want you making the choice because you are married. Its because your married that your wife should have some input, keeping her out of it will just create distance between the two of you, and any money decisions that are made while you are married should be agreed upon by both of you as a couple rather then having one person deciding everything.

i hope this helps!

In this case, I suggest you have to act the head. U have to be urself and u have to listen to urself.....if you will involve emotions in this then you will not able to sort this problem.....helping parents and giving them money is not a bad thing....they make you big, gave you education not for this day that for them you will put conditions....you have to do what you like is good & okay...and then don't bother what your wife thinks...u have to be very clear with her that you can't do what all she says & will do all that what you like the best and which will not harm anyone...rest leave on her..whether she want to carry on or not...if this time only u will not clear the things then next time it will be more....so better to solve the problem in first point & don't wait for anything major...best of luck

If your parents own several properties or at least 2 then to have your name as a joint owner on just one when you are helping to pay for it is not an unreasonable request.

What is the security your wife has if you were to die in a car crash or some other unexpected accident. Can she feel secure that your parents would take care of her. You are not a good judge of this question, they are your parents and you will only think good thoughts.

Your wife is looking out for your and her own best interests. You need to be loyal to your wife if you want peace (and good sex) at home. Sit down and talk it over with your Mom and Dad. They will understand that your wife is looking out for herself. If your parents are not willing to have you share title ask them why not. You should not and do not want complete ownership, but you should be able to make your wife feel secure.

She will find out & will get an attorney & take you to court. Either way I think you will have to give her part of the money. Why are you divorcing anyway. Is it because you won the lotto, or did you two already have problems before this? Good luck.