Embarrassed by your fellow gays?

i personally find them slightly insulting, i have spent the better half of my life trying to stamp out stereotypes that all gay guys are like that, it is true that some are flamboyant but then some go into i am just being obnoxious because i am gay.

i am gay, i like football i like fashion and i am an intellectual in other words not at all a stereotypical gay guy.yet i am supposed to be represented by guys who go around making fools of themselves? no most gays i know male and female and even the bi's i know do not act like that they have a few tendency's that may be Femme or butch but what they were doing is just perpetuating a stereotype as it is the easiest way for them to define themselves without showing their true nature!

in conclusion no i do not find that pride inducing at all, in a way i find it setting back our rights a generation or two because we are just doing what we are expected instead of trying to just be.

sorry if i rambled and if you do not agree , well this is my opinion.

I laughed my butte off while reading your question LOL!! haha

I went to the dyke march & the gay pride parade last June in San Francisco.. Nothing was "shameful" cause everybody is just trying to have a good time and I understand that..

I have to admit some queens can be extremely annoying, but I've met quite a few decent ones who know how to control themselves... I don't think that they're annoying cuz they're gay or cross dressers, they're annoying cause some people are just annoying, each in their own way! I don't believe in stereotypes, which is why I see every person as an individual, and if you do that, you'll find the non annoyin queens :D

but generally, in the LGBT community, there's one thing that is shameful, which is when the L, G, B & T disagree and fight over stupid things.. We're already discriminated against by many, we don't need discrimintation between us too..

Examples for this were shown in a Tyra Banks episode, it's called "The Gay Kingdom", here are the links for all parts of it on youtube:-

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0XWvNObmOmE

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wzTf5iVMQwM&feature...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Svx98cyTIj0&feature...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CyEGoGIdLqY&feature...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LscYchPDPKg&feature...

You will be shocked at what you are gonna see, not all LGBTs are like that, but many are.. and it's sad!

I'm a 100% gay man, and I know where you're coming from.

I'm no prude, but I was raised to value manners, courtesy, empathy, and other matters of etiquette. So overt public salaciousness by any gender and by any sexual orientation is anathema to me. That kind of stuff can be fun in a smaller setting, such as a party or at a bar, but at a large-scale event it's out of place precisely because there is no guarantee that everyone in the crowd is of the same mindset, or shares the same sense of humor.

That being said, there's nothing wrong with telling someone calmly but forcefully to stop what they're doing. A stern "that's enough" can pull someone up short and convey to them quickly that they're acting inappropriately. By the way, I'm saying that you could have done this, but especially the objects of their attention should have done it. As Dear Abby used to say, no one can treat us like a doormat without our consent.

But if you don't want to be that confrontational, then go the bureaucracy route -- call the event's organizers and tell them that the behavior was inexcusable.

Not at a pride event (never been), but my friend Richie, who's bi but very feminine, was egging me on to get close with this girl I liked from school. He was trying to help I know, but it was frustrating that he wanted to rush things along. I didn't even know if she was gay or not and the guy was telling me she was into me. It gets old after a while.

It's a good refresher to know that I'm not a typical LGBT person either, though.

Yeah, I went to a pride event in London a few months ago and it was full of knobheads like the ones you just described. Shrieking queens on stilts and the like. It's shameful.

I would feel a little embarrassed about the guys asking if the other guys were tops, bottoms and so on but I wouldn't be embarrassed about them cross dressing and being flamboyant.

That was just plain rude and inappropriate of the MC's - gay or not. Their orientation(s) do not give them the right to ask invasive personal questions. Personal is personal. And yes, I would have been angry.

I totally understand. Flamboyant femme guys are so annoying and fake. They are SCREAMING for attention. Being gay is perfectly fine but it does NOT require you to act like a girl. That crap really bugs me.

I know for a fact that there are gays who are embarrassed by certain gays in the public spotlight. For example, a lot of people in the gay community are embarrassed by Perez Hilton.