why does this happen?

First off, it isn't unheard of for men to change their last names when they marry. I know of a lot of guys who have offered to take the wife's last name or they go through their ancestry to pick a last name they both like to have as their last name. The conventional thing is for the wife to take the husband's surname, but it isn't absurd or laughable that men take their wives' names.

From what you've written, it sounds like you two weren't ready to get married in the first place. This isn't a big issue. For you think that you want to file for divorce over this is stupid. I mean it would be as stupid as you two wanting to divorce over which side of the bed you want to sleep on. Give me a break!

I think you two need to sit down and talk about it. Tell her the reasons why you don't want to change her name. It better not be something stupid or archaic like "I'm a man and I'm keeping it and you have to change your surname it my surname because it's what wives do" bullshit. Seriously, please make sure it's legitimate reasons like "I've never considered changing my surname for marriage" or why don't you be a modern, sensitive (not sissy, I mean sensitive and caring) man and suggest that neither of you have to change your last names or to hyphenate the two as many people do nowadays. It's only a surname for f*ck's sake...it's not like you two are deciding whether to have children or not. It's a freaking last name. Seriously sit down and tell her that she can keep her last name and that you'd like to keep yours. If she insists on you changing it, ask her why it's so important to her that you do that. Ask her what her REAL issue is (since I doubt she's seriously angry over something so trivial as this) that she's upset about. Tell her that you didn't mean to upset or insult her and her last name, but put your foot down and say you have no intention of changing your last name.

If the sit down chat doesn't work, consider counseling. I have a difficult time believing that she's seriously this upset over a surname. There has to be a bigger issue she's upset about but is using this as a way to jump into it. It's either that or she's seriously a selfish person who has to have it her way or the highway. Good luck.

For starters people don't fall out of Love...they choose to be stupid and let petty little things ruin their marriage and end up in a divorce over nonsense.

Your wife is wrong! The man is supposed to keep his last name and when they get married the wife is supposed to take his name, if your wife doesn't like that maybe she shouldn't have gotten married.

Pray to God regularly even as making an attempt, as God is helping individuals who support themselves as a substitute than those people who are lazy. Lord Krisna stated in Bhagavad Gita, we must bring out our works and surrender the fruit of our movement. So we have got to preserve making an attempt and discover pleasure in doing our paintings, whether or not or now not we get the preferred outcome. We must now not lose wish. Do your pleasant and go away the relaxation to God,it's going to all come proper a few day or night time.

She's being unreasonable. Stop offering to fix her dinner or kiss her or lay a finger on her. Withdraw until she comes to the realization on her own that making ridiculous demands on your spouse is no way to behave in a marriage.

If she continues to hold a grudge, walk away. She's crazy.

Y'all should have thought about this before the two of you said "I do". Since y'all didn't, the consequences are being paid in the long run. I wish the two of you the best and hope things work out in the long run.

you can ask help of a third party to discuss concerns like: family counsellor, a minister, priest etc. your partner is still in the adjustment period of marriage so explore possibilities of resolving it.

This is a first for me. What brought this on?

Weird.

Walk away...

sounds like you put her on a Pedestal you can no longer reach...Let that be a lesson

lol sounds like she pushing for the divorce.