b/f has cheated in the past...?

I believe that a cheating past can be overlooked because in many cases it depends on the girl (if he's seeing a girl he's not crazy about he may cheat on her, but if he later meets the girl of his dreams he'll probably be faithful). So that's not really the issue as far as I can see.

Abuse (emotional or physical), on the other hand, is a behavior that runs deep. I don't believe it's possible to change that in a man and I think that some day it will show it's face again-- whether 2 months down the line or 20 years down the line.

So no, don't talk to him.

=\ ..all i can say...is Once a Cheater always A Cheater.I mean its the truth u know .People dont change, and if you really like/love this guy then just time will tell you how he is and how he truly is. But i mean about his violent behaviour..thats not right and i dont think any girl should tolerate that. but like i said just watch out for yourself, and try NOT to fall in love so fast, because once you do. And if he changes later on and things happen..you will forgive him and he'll do it over and over again. And thats not right. Just take care of yourself alright? You should know what you're getting yourself into, im not saying its wrong.but just watch out for yourself.

GOOD LUCK!

It's a little naive to think this guy has changed. Im not saying its not possible - but guys who do those kinds of things (physically abusive) do not change - ever. My father was like & 2 of my ex boyfriends. So trust me when I tell you - it doesn't change. He might be trying to change or he may have not hit a woman since - but there is always going to be a breaking point & you might not want to be there when it happens.

NO WAY!!!!!! You will be more stupid than the last girl he smacked around if you get involved with him. Don't be an idiot. Just becaue he is honest doesn't mean he will change. I know you will be with him though and I can't believe how stupid you are. You are not alone though. I hope everything works out well for you. Good Luck. I wish I could save you lol.

no get rid of him.

honestly, dont get caught up in this emotional dribble. you re just starting out, so its not too late. it doesnt matter if he says hes being honest. the fact that hes hit a woman and cheated says a lot about him. they NEVER CHANGE trust me

Its difficult when you in this position. The fact is if he did it before he would most likely do it again especially if he is angry and you cant always try to keep him calm. Its great he is being honest with you but first get to know him better then you can decide on what to do.

Once a cheater always a cheater.

A man should never ever hit a girl.

I think that if he was honest with you like that then you could continue talking to him. Just keep up your guard and think about how he behaves. Make sure he's really changed.

Like everyone else said - once a cheater, always a cheater. While you want to believe him because he was honest in his replies to your questions, people like him are known smooth-talkers. Get out now.

Go for it. It should make a good follow up question a few months from now.

You will be asking something like:

"I really love my BF. He cheated on me once and hit me once, but he says he loves me. What should I do?"