How do I get my Husband to be more forceful in the bedroom *NOT for the prudish and feminist*?

Well if you can't make him understand that in 5 years, maybe you married the wrong guy. Did you try to get it through to him step by step? like:

* honey I like it when you talk dirty to me sometimes

* honey HOLD MY ARMS.. YEAH... like that ... hmmm

* honey please spank me just a little..... HARDER!!!

* I want to be your sl*t

* tell me that I'm your sl*t

etc. etc.

allow him to grow into that role. If it doesn't fit him, you'll find out soon enough.

GO FOR IT

Ok I have the answer and this is serious ok, as a man I no how the beast works and doesn't. I have connected with mine and the best way and the best position is the doggy. There is something really basic and base and animal about this for a man, but I want you to add some spice to this, not just a bedroom dog but an outside at night doggy and preferably under a full moon and in a field. Although I am connected with my animal and we meet occasionally I have asked my women if we could perhaps go out this winter and take the rug and find a Field I know in kent and take her in that position under the moon, and I might even bl oo dy howl too, she's up for it , it might be over inside 5 minutes but that isn't the point, the point for bot of us is to connect with that primeval source in all of us. You need you man to find his, what ever that is, but I suggest you try this as well, and tell him out loud to f u c you scream it at him under the moon, and if that doesn't work then man your in trouble, happy love making sweet pea x

I know what your feeling. I would like my husband to take advantage of me too a little rough. Anyways I like the idea of putting on some sexy clothes, then take whole advantage of him if he goes to touch you tell him "NO this is me pleasing you" hold his hands above his head or if you give oral be a little rough there nibble a little TEASE him rub your body up and down his without touching his penis play with you nipples and clit for him still not letting him touch you. then finally you f*** him hard and long and afterwords see how he likes it and tell him that its nice to do something different once in a while you can use toys too play with his head a little it will drive him crazy but hopefully not to craze that he wont last long good luck and hopefully this will work and make sure you talk dirty to him as well like ooo baby your so big or slam it in or maybe different positions he will be a little wilder

You can tell us but you cannot tell your husband? How is that? Just explain to him that the gentle lovemaking is for fish such as dolphins and not for you. You prefer abit of rough. If he does not understand, get him to go on an amy assault course and when he gets back let him play the army major while you play a recruit.

since talking didn't help for you... well in majority cases, the men always wants to be the dominant figure in sex however, it is obviously not the same for you. Why don't you act rather than tell him? Maybe do a role play like doctor and nurse or something of that sort. Whisper dirty things to him in his ear when you're in between something intense or like text him a dirty message when he's at work, something to get him pumped up and horny. You could also try hooking up in somewhere different rather than simply your room, have you tried hooking up in a public place? Usually, hooking up in a public place really gets you hot and heavy. I hope these work for you, cheers.

Tell him! You are not selfish, those are just the things you want, and if you can't get them from him....well you may not be so happy. Try saying something like "I want to spice things up! Is there anything new you want to try in the bedroom? Well, I think I'd like it if you were more rough with me, like if you held me down and blah blah blah"

A feminist is someone who supports equal opportunities and choices for women. Why wouldn't a feminist be able to advise you on this? It seems like there's a whole generation of women out there who don't know what a feminist is, and are afraid to call themselves one. Weird. I'm a feminist, and I'm filthy in the bedroom.

It's too much to need it to please him; it's not his nature. It will have to be enough that he's willing to do it. Accepting that you are different is key to long-term satisfaction.

Wear something naughty for when he gets home (make sure you won't be interrupted) and when he is standing in the doorway looking dumbstruck you tell him "Sweetheart, I could use a good hard F***". I'm saying instead of trying to convince him, try to inspire him.

Am having the same sort of problem with my wife-to-be.She likes the man to take the lead--whereas i like equality in the bedroom for the both of us. I don't like to mention it--(i think its pestering her if i do)-- as we've only been together for nearly two years&she clams up when its mentioned. Its got to the point of intimacy one every three weeks--such a shame:-((( Sorry i couldn't help.

Try role playing be like a damsel in distress .Sometimes men can be lazy or sometimes they just need to be shown want you want from them.Blow his socks off .And than "once you put him to bed" say how was that , hopefully he says amazing than say that's what i want from you .Good luck