Anyone know what the deal with this girl is?

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During my senior year in high school, I decided to pursue this girl who was a year younger than me, I screwed it up, but it wasn't a big thing, I just gave her her space for awhile, and by the end of the year we were pretty close. I went to college and we talked that year, went on a few dates, and I told her that I wanted to be more than just friends, I can't remember what she said at that point, but a month later, I just got this random message basically telling me that it wasn't going to happen. I wanted to talk about it, and eventually, she just blocked me. I was polite mind you, I just wanted to talk about it. So, I deleted her, insert high school drama here. Six months later she adds me on facebook, at this point I've gotten on with my life, but I figure sure, we can be friends, and I figure I'll be friendly and send her a message saying, "hi, how are you?" no answer, so I figured it was too soon to be friends again, and let it sit. It's two years later now, I haven't talked to her at all, and I just happened to discover that she's deleted me. I figure she was just getting rid of her facebook friends that she wasn't really friends with, and I'm cool with that, but I just don't get the whole situation. I have my theories, she liked having me around, liked being taken out, but didn't want to commit, but it just has never made sense to me. Can anybody figure this one out?

Update:

No, that's the thing, I am over it, but I psychoanalyze everybody, and I like to be able to rationalize everyone's behavior. It's one of those things I do. I over-analyze everything. When I'm dealing with girls I typically just turn that part of my brain off, but I like things to make sense, and this has never made sense to me.

lala · Accepted Answer

honestly you were probably the only guy in her life and she was bored so she went out with you.. she probably got aggravated in the beginning by a little thing you did and things went down hill.. and coming from personal experience i had a guy who wanted to date me and texted me like 3 times a day saying things like "hey beautiful" .. and i just blew him off like a total jerk.. then like 6 months later we became friends but it was non stop fighting and it never worked out.. and recently i told him i couldn't hang out with him anymore because he didn't treat me with respect.. but it sounds like you never did that so im guessing she was just using you im sorry.. you seem nice so go and find another girl and forget about her

miss.amazing:) · Answer

honestly no i cant figure it out. i also only have theories...none of it really makes sense..

i dont understand why she just gave that random message telling you it wasn't going to happen or randomly adding adn deleting you on facebook.

i think it all lies within her circle of friends,...whenevr you told her about wanting to be more than friends her friends were probably like o thats  a bad idea or whatevr. but then later she added you on facebook. once again her friedns were against it and they probly told her to deleteyou. they were probly all convincing and stuff and so she did what they said.

i hope this helps...ive never heard of anything like this b4 tho

K29 · Answer

I rate u ended up in the friend zone. Which pretty much explains the entire first half of ur story. As for the facebook thing maybe she added u as a friend and then thought better of it so as not to stir up the past.

corrine h · Answer

Oh wow !!Sometimes its really hard for some people to just truth up and say whats on their mind but you never know whats going on in her mind somebody could have told her something and that could have just made her completely avoid you but if you are ever in town pay her visit  and tell her whats on your mind and see whats up with her

Scorpion Fiend · Answer

It looks like she also thought about becoming friends again, but maybe somebody told her that once you break up, it's over.  So then she felt confused and deleted you.  I hope things work out.

? · Answer

i think this girl has had deep feeling for you in the past and as girls feel like they don't no how to tell a lad they keep it inside and i think this is what she has done, it can cause all that heart ache again to start talking so why cause it. I would defiantly say that, that is her problem,

Hope this helps

average joe · Answer

It just simply sounds like she's an immature chick who cant handle a nice guy like you... i think

? · Answer

Maybe she is creeped out about the fact that you want to ask her out. I think that she probably already had a boyfriend when you asked her out.

n/a · Answer

just forget the issue and the girl. you need to get over it.

Anonymous · Answer

umm wow. shes stupid ? she obviously isn't worth your time so why bother ? If you moved on u wouldn't be asking this question right now.

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