how do i not lose all respect for myself?

hey wats up?

Everything is bad right now with the economy, but your bf or husband should be helping you out when you need him the most, and vice versa, as long as you keep doing your part you should be fine

I'm all for 50/50 but it may not be as cut a dry as how you've made it bill-wise. You may be unemployed but do not under-estimate your job as a parent or the work you do around the house --- that has value and it should be reflected in your contribution to the household. If your husband values you and what you do, there shouldn't be an issue with adjusting the financial balance especially considering he makes more!

Everybody finds themselves in a financial pinch at some time or other. While you may not be able to increase your income for the time-being, try and find ways to cut spending. Eating in, carpool, streamline bills, cut out extras, take advantage of coupons, shop at other stores with less overhead, buy in bulk...etc. Make sure your husband is aware of these efforts so he knows you are still finding ways to contribute.

He makes twice as much as you do. While I am all for working women outside the home he needs to understand that times are hard for your family right now. With a total of four children in the home you need to consider them as well. Don't put your stress on them. You and your husband need to talk this out and decide on what to do. Do not internalize you this either as this will make you bitter towards your family and your situation. Sometimes in life you just take a hit and times are tough for plenty right now and a job is better than no job. No one is saying once a job comparable to your old one opens up that you have to pass it up. Just always be vigilant and things will hopefully work out for the better.

no you`ll probably be able to cut it thin with your bills but you won't be able to do many of the things you did when you had money such as movies, eating out && etc.

but if it's not like that than ask the people you pay your bills at for a payment plan. not sure if that made sense but hope you get me -___-

Your problem is 50/50 If its a relationship there is no percentages! What's mine is yours! So, Tell him we are a family and we should act like one!... if he shoot's that down... then I don't think that leave you much of a choice... he's putting money or you which is a toxic relationship.

I can't really say how not to. Just have confidence :) idk sorry I really wish I had a better answer but that's a question we've all avoided for ages

he needs to pay more