Should trust be mutual.....?

That is an insightful question. Trust must be mutual for it to last in any relationship, whether love or commercial or even spiritual. My logic is as follows.

If I trust someone and find out that he/she doesn't trust me, then I would necessarily become unsure of how the person would deal with me (or treat me or confide in me), since he/she doesn't trust me. Being unsure of how someone will deal with me is equivalent of lack of trust. Therefore, logically speaking, where there is a continuing relationship or dealings of any kind, trust can only be present on a mutual basis and if it happens to be or becomes one-sided, it can't last long.

Does that mean love too must be mutual? I don't think so, because in love, even if we do not trust someone, we can still continue to do everything for the good and benefit of the beloved..... this can be better understood when we see how parents can continue to love their children even if they know them to be less than trustworthy or even when the children are not reciprocating the love. The most telling example though is 'self-love'..... even if we are aware of our shortcomings and are unable to trust ourselves, we continue to love ourselves as we are. Love is not dependent on trust or trustworthiness.

Things can be simple but we complicate them.

Be honest from the beginning,and never lie.How?

You say what you want people to know,and you keep quiet about things you dont want people to know.Ask questions you need to know,and you get an immediate answer,or a lie.

There is always a silence before a lie,some people will change thier mind a few times.If someone doesnt trust you,it doesnt matter.You need not trust anything from them other than the fact that they may betray you at any given time for certain.

Then you dont talk about them,and see what lies come up about you.If they involve that person,you see they have started rumors.

No one can benefit evil this way because evil cannot be benefitted,and no wrong person can learn better wrong.I told you straight out what I could trust anyone with.

The reason is because I trust in my own completely.

I trust in the truth,the facts,and reality,and nothing else.

It's amazing the things you can learn if you don't demand a perfect world.

I think small has hit the nail on the head

To be honest there shouldnt be a problem trusting that person no matter he trusts you or not but since we as human beings have our own self doubts and insecurities, we may tend to lose trust in them

It comes up like this - You trust someone, he/she doesnt, so what happens is you try your best to make him/her believe that you can be trusted but if they still dont trust you, you may tend to dislike them.This dislike could affect your trust you had in them...Chain reaction

It requires some clear thinking to realize that someone can be trusted whether he trusts you or not

So trust can be one sided or mutual but trust should be mutual for a successful relationship

Not necessarily...

I trust... almost everything... and it never is mutual... at most times...

But it will be... like many others... you have to take a 'test' to prove your trustworthiness... you fall... you stumble and at times you're murdered... and you wake up... funnily... at one point they will trust you...

It goes the same way for everything... there are times when you trust something so much... and it fails... does that mean you trust... is failed... I don't think so... its always a matter... of waking up and going on... and eventually everything will come to a light...

So if I trust a person and that person doesn't I will still trust that person... why...

Because I know I can be trusted... I'll do it my way... trust with very little protection... to gain what I want... what I deserve...

Cheers!!!!!

Yes! If not the relationship will be fruitless eventually so, that it becomes.

Trust to eachother and that's the way it should be in good friendships and all kinds of close relationships..

Even to the people we used to deal with in our own personal business affairs. That trusting eachother should only be mutual to pursue the matters needed to get attended too.

Because it is also the 'proof' that honesty is there..That it should only be in dealing with eachother.

Or never deal anything at all..Never have any relationship. For misery is only at the other side of the way..

That is why we only should choose people before we get closer to them. Then before entrusting them our confidences as well. When we know we can be honest and trustworthy as a person too.

Thank you!

I usually do not. Every year there are thousands of new funds. After including fees and expenses, the vast majority perform well below the market average. A bird could drop its seeds on the financial quotes page of the newspaper in the bottom of the cage and do better. Most funds belong to a group (or family) of funds. The ones that do well are loudly heralded and advertised while the weak ones quietly slip into oblivion. The brokers lead you from last year's loser to next year's likely loser. There are too many stories of people investing in 401k funds that became 201k funds. That being said, there are some good ones. I would recommend AWSHX and NYVBX. They have done well for me over several years.

I believe that if someone rusts you, then you should trust them back. With this said, then trust is something that if everyone had we could live and be free to believe/say/live without the fear of being hurt of misguided. So I DO believe that trust should be mutual.

to me this seems like loaded question, but let think about why some people dont trust others.

some people have been hurt too many times. the best we can do for them is love them and still be there for them.

some people project their own sins on other people and are not trusting for that reason. i.e. thieves are afraid of people stealing their things.

give it some though.

i think trust should be mutual but whether you trust him/her or not, you should still be there for them if they are a friend

It need not be mutual.. Yet....

But, when someone trusts his/her friend and if that person comes to know that the other is not trusting him, then it hurts a lot.. :)

Yes I think trust should be mutual if you are looking for a longlasting relationship/ friendship. If someone doesn't trust you, you cannot expect a good relationship with that person.