Reading my daughter's text messages...okay?

Ordinarily, I would be concerned about breech of trust (it's a bit like reading a diary), but... eek. You must be very worried. You don't say how old she is, but I think you'd better sit her down and have a serious discussion with her. Try saying you'd noticed she was behaving strangely, that although you know it was wrong that you looked at a couple of texts and now you really need an explanation as you're worried about her safety.

*EDIT* OH, VERY FUNNY. JUST READ IN ONE OF YOUR OTHER QUESTIONS THAT YOU ARE 19 AND WORRIED ABOUT BRAIN DAMAGE FROM POT. SO- YOUR TWO YEAR OLD IS HANGING OUT WITH SOME REALLY HEAVY KIDS IN NURSERY, EH? *SIGH*

Is her father around, or at least available to come and back you up?

If at all possible, I would try to get her to go to the police with you... I really hope this all works out, and that it isn't what it seems.

Concealing a murder? That is definitely something to confront her about!

On the acting older thing, that could just be her wishing she was older- and with proper reason, being a daughter myself, I think it's okay to get into the business a little- how else are you going to keep her safe?

With the way society is, I think you have full right. You pay the bill for the phone (assuming you do) it is technically your phone and you have the right to know that your child is doing the right things. Or if not, have a chance to head it off before she does something stupid.

You are a parent and it is your responsibility to ensure that your children are safe and will grow to be responsible adults. We as parents need to be open with our children about everything. And I don't mean only the stuff we are comfortable with.

Tell her, casually, that you were reading her texts. Let her do the hole "I can't believe you..." that she will do. And then talk to her about your concerns, tie it in with your experiences (once again not just what you are comfortable with) and allow her to discus these maters with you. the key is both of you talk, and both of you receive.

If it was not really about a "murder" be prepared to be the butt of a lot of jokes.

If i thought my daughter or son for that matter was concealing a murder i wouldn't be asking the question on here, i would be asking my d/s. Then if necessary informing the police. But if this is just a question about invading someones privacy i would say you are wrong to do this, how would you feel if your daughter did this to you.

concealing a MURDER ?

ur daughter ??

u think u might b reading too much into it ???

i would bring it up in a way that doesnt make it obvious that u read her texts

or

talk to her

or

follow her ..

choice is up 2 u ..

good luk

Uh 1 reading text messages is invading personal spae but if she is involved in a murder talk to the police and have them keep an eye on her.

You should text her. Like accidentally send a message a guy would send back to her. See if she replies thinking its him. Maybe she will make a mistake and catch her in the act of texting inappropriate messages!

confront her. unless you really do want to visit your daughter in county or state prison .... it would be different if she was texting about a boy or sneaking out. but a murder? do something before its to late and she has a court date.

If she is doing something immoral and illegal then you should confront her and do whats right.

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