Okay a serious question, so children stay out please?

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Salaamu alaikum wa Rahmatu Allaah wa Barakatuh,

I have this situation or i made it my situation, since it involves a young child that can't fight for herself (she is 4 years old).. 

This child is one of the friends of my daughter (she is almost 5 years), Soebhan Allaah, she loves to play and be arround us, since her family isn't muslim. She loves to come to our house and to "pray" with me and my daughter (just the movements). At first, i didn't found it strange or anything. But the thing is, everytime i mention to her that her mother comes over 30 or 15 minutes to pick her up, she freaks out. Today agian. She hide herself under the bed.. My husband had to drag her out of there (since i was talking to her mother by the frontdoor). 
When i spoke to her mother, that she had hide herself, she replied that is a common thing. My daughter went down to the frontdoor, but this child (as my husband said) was so affraid to be turned over to her mother (every mother knows that face). Ya Allaah, every child is "happy" to see her/his mother after 2,5 hours (they are free friday afternoon). But she freaked out stamped with her feet, cried and yelled, that the mother came so frustrated that it was painfull to close the door. When i spoke with my daughter (before today), she told me that her mother yells at her that she is a burden to her.. that her mother made her the black sheep of the family. Because her youngest child (aswell a girl) of 3 years was a angel. Today i asked her about home, she was blanc, the answer to most of my childish questions were 'i don't know". Do you make little fights aswell with your sister? (when my daughter had a fight with my son) i don't know. Does your mother give you french frites? No, i have eaten it once in the Mac Donalds. 

Really i saw this child looking for mother love. She was so lovely when she heared of me that i loved her feesabillah, not knowing what feesabillah means, but the words i love you, made her as a butterfly. That i fear for the child that something is not right in her home. Understand that her mother was HAPPY that her child was away as she hoped she stayed at us for longer time.. A kafira happy that her child plays with the daughter of a niqaabi muslim woman! 

What is your advice in this situation? What should i do? I do not want to close my eyes and pretend nothing happens. 

Salaamu alaikum wa Rahmatu Allaah,


Umm Bilqys

Sandy in Grease! · Accepted Answer

This is a difficult situation because you do not want to offend the child's mother and have her take her child away from your loving and caring home, but you also want to be sure that the child is being taken care of and isn't being hurt at her own home.  If your daughter and her friend attend any kind of school together, I would talk to a teacher or counselor about the problem.  They might be able to look deeper into it and find out if anything inappropriate is going on at the child's home, without placing you in any awkward, dangerous, or offensive situations.  Hope this helps, and good luck!

Anonymous · Answer

If you feel that her mother is happy when she is away from her child, then it will give you the opportunity to invite the little girl over more often and more hours.  The mother could be going through some mental illness.

You should remain close to the mother and even suggest, if her little girl could spend more time with you.  By doing this the mother will learn to trust you, and perhaps open up to you. You should  also  let her understand that you are acknowledging that she is having a hard time with her daughter.  And that you are willing to care for her child, until she gets help. 

I am certain, that you know that this is a test for you, and one that, if you listen to your heart, then many blessings and rewards could be coming your way.

Anonymous · Answer

Sheikh Yusuf Estes used to be a Christian minister in the U.S. before he converted to Islam. He became a Muslim when he tried to convert someone else to Christianity. He is known worldwide for his lectures and he has brought thousands of people to Islam Masha'Allah.
please go to the link below to watch him tell his story of how be became a Muslim. It's very interesting.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tpd-Ek1-RRc

your gonna have to click on part 2 when part 1 is over and so on.

Starshine · Answer

i wouldnt exactly tell her mom what your daughter or what her daughter have said.  if her daughter is being abused in any way.. that could only make the situation worse for her at home because she could get in trouble.  there has got to be a way to get more information out of her, that way the authorities can get involved.. or talk to her family if you dont want the authorities to get involved.  they could help.

Maryam chica española · Answer

well...actually most kids cry when they want to stay around a friends.
Sorry sis but i think for you to ask the child personal Q is out of order and not really your business. You wouldn'tt like it if someone trusted you and they betrayed it
the accusation are not strong enough all kids don't like to be yelled at..have you never shouted at yours?
and maybe she doesn't like dirty MacDonald's i certainly wouldn't take my kid in there

NUMBER 13 · Answer

never interfere in someone else Business..
that is where problems getting bigger and bigger..
they are just children's.. they get along just fine by the times passes by..

Anonymous · Answer

Talk to her mum about this and tell her what your daughter has been saying.

Anonymous · Answer

u r in deep waters there

Anonymous · Answer

*yawns*

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