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Keeping things from relationships past, weird or normal?
Alright, so in all my past relationships, I kept a box and in that box, I would keep notes, cards, photographs, etc. Pretty normal I think...yet, in the past I have been able to destroy that box shortly after the relationships were over. I now have a box of things from my ex that I can't let go of but really want to. She has moved on and it's time that I do too. Is it strange to keep them even after moving on or is it perfectly normal to want to be able to revisit what you once had. I was told that I was better off to destroy it.
I appreciate everyone's words of advice. I think the hardest thing to let go of are the cards that she would write in for me. I think they are the only time that she ever really showed feelings and therefore I want to hold onto them but they really upset me at the same time. I have only looked very quickly through the shoebox once since we broke up about 6 months ago and I didn't even read anything and it was gut wrenching and it still has the same effect on me now. I know that they are just objects but it was also 3 1/2 years of my life. I want to keep it but I want to get rid of it at the same time. I feel like getting rid of it would aid me in getting over her but I'm holding onto something that isn't there. Every word in those cards are no longer true so what difference does it make...am I making any sense at all?
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- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
It's perfectly normal that there are parts of the relationship that you don't want to let go of. If there is a lot of stuff in the box, maybe just keep a few and let go of the rest. It's a personal decision so don't let anyone tell you what you should or should not do. You could keep the box and not ever let anyone know. I still have boxes from my ex's and my husband has 1 too. They are life memories and some we don't want to forget... whether they are good or bad, they made us who we are today!
- ?Lv 45 years ago
that is exactually how my boyfriend and that i began out having a sexural dating. We used to communicate so brazenly and conveniently approximately what we enjoyed and so on that finally we've been the two waiting. My boyfriend and that i had intercourse for the 1st time at 10 months and that i don't be apologetic approximately it the slightest, and we've ben togfether for 2 years and we are nonetheless going stable. once you're waiting, do what you the two choose. while you're mushy tyo talk it infront of one yet another, then you certainly are incredibly devoloping as a pair. desire each thing is going nicely
- 1 decade ago
well, most relationship experts would say that the best thing to do is get rid of all those memories. but i know where you're coming from because i have a folder of previous memories with my ex boyfriend. i tried burning it, but i couldn't. i personally think that it's okay to keep everything as long as you only look through it very occasionally. if you're trying to get over this guy, i would suggest not looking through it until you are over him. by then, you might not want the stuff anyway.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
I don't think it's a big deal. Obviously she meant a lot to you; get rid of the things when you're ready to. They're just things, after all.
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- 1 decade ago