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Poll: How would you handle this situation with your father? I really need some good advice?
I'm going to make a long story short. I'm 28. My fiance' is 23. Our sons are 3 and 5 years old. The oldest son named Marcus is not biologically mine. However, I claim Marcus as my son because I came into his life when he was 1. Anyway, the holidays are coming. I put some things on lay away for both of my sons at Walmart and KMart last month. My father, who hates my fiance' for being a single teen aged mother, is outraged. My father gives my fiance' no respect even though she is a college graduate, well employed, a good mother and a good fiance'. He said that I should have spent a lot less money on my oldest son because he's not mine anyway. He also told me that he was only going to buy my oldest son a cheap toy because he was not his real grandson. What the f#ck, right? Well, anyway, the holidays are fast approaching. And my fiance' does not wanna go to my parent's house for Thanksgiving or Christmas due to my father's foul attitude towards her and Marcus. What can I do to get my father to treat my fiance' and Marcus much better than this? I have tried everything and there is still so much conflict!
3 Answers
- Anonymous1 decade agoFavorite Answer
I don't think there is much you can do....it sounds as though your father is pretty set in his ways....he made his mind up about how he feels about your fiance, no matter how wrong it is, and I doubt anything either of you could do or say would make him change is opinions. Sometimes it makes people happy to wallow in their own shite, you know, so I think you should just let it be, and decide on what you would like to do for the holidays, regardless of how your family feels about what you are doing with your life!
- 1 decade ago
My grandmother did that to me and my brother, my two cousins were the only grandkids she
felt worthy to lavish her love and money on. Unfortunately my mother said nothing at the time, and truly regrets it now. It will impact Marcus. You should stand up to your dad and tell him you
will not be coming to dinner, and the reason why. Explain that if he loves you, he will have to
treat your fiancee and BOTH your children with the same respect he shows you. Hopefully he
will come around when he misses you and the little grandchild. If not, it will hurt, but you can
probably survive without him.
Source(s): Personal expierence
