How to deal with friend problems?

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I met a guy who happens to be older than me by a few years some months ago. He and i are from completely different worlds, believe completely different things, yet we get along well enough to have been friends since. I've always known he's been into drinking and drugs, beer and pot mostly, but not enough for it to be a big problem. Recently he's tried harder drugs, like heroin, and i just didn't know what to do. I talked to him, tried to get him to see that it's wrong and he does. He just can't seem to stop himself. He and i live no where near each other, so i have no way of getting to him to help him. Finally, today i told him i'd had enough, that i couldn't take him doing that to himself. We pretty much ended all communication, but i feel so guilty for letting him go like that. I don't want to see him fall down an even worse path, but i just can't bring myself to exert more energy in trying to get him to stop. Any advice?

Update:

He has had a rough childhood, and we have talked about it. I don't know anyone else close enough to him to try to make a difference except his on-again, off-again girlfriend, who is, at the moment, off-again. I've never tried to tell him what to do because he hates that, but i have tried to get him to understand that it's wrong and that there is so many things out there he can do, none involving drinking or drugs. It just doesn't work.

Someone (: · Answer

Try communicating with him again. Don't fully convince him like forcing him to stop. Try to make him realize that it's there are better thing in the world than just drugs and alcohol. Did he have any issues in the past? If so, maybe that's why it's causing him to do drugs and such. If he does have a troubling past try to always be there for him. Tell him that it's ok.

Ovaltine Jenkins · Answer

You did all you could, the rest falls on him && just how strong his desire to quit is. If he's willing to choose drugs over a good friend who only has his best interests at heart, then not only is that his problem but that also tells you what kind of person he is. What I'm trying to say is we can only do so much but if that person's not willing to do for themself then it's a lost cause. Don't feel guilty.

LVATT · Answer

If you really love your friend, you'd tell someone who can help him and lives closer. I know exactly what you are going through but my friend's problem was with depression and violence. I told his parents and he's getting the help he needs. He got upset I told, so he still doesn't talk to be but I love him so much that I only wish for his well-being.

Danielle · Answer

hey,im not callin you the bad guy but you really shouldnt have just dropped him like that.you may have drivin him into an even worse state.who knows how hes feelin right now.you should atleast try and help a lil more.you should try and get him to start hobbies or join sport teams.anything to get his mind off of things.

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Warren · Answer

Well, you should no give up on him. If he was really your friend you should get him some help. Try to get him into rehab.,

Anonymous · Answer

Ask someone more experienced for help. Asking for help is the best you can do.

helpers · Answer

sign him up for therapy

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