Broken hearted, what do I do? Is there ANY chance?

You can't cling to a relationship based on what you would like it to be. It sounds very much like you're genuinely seeing this person for who she really is. Makes sense too: The "honeymoon" is over; your relationship isn't new and she doesn't have to try hard to impress you with her behavior. What's more, you've made it clear to her you're going to put up with whatever nastiness she decides to throw your way. I've seen relationships go like this and whenever the male has put up with this kind of behavior, the female has *always* gotten meaner and it's always been deliberate on her part. One such woman I knew told all of her friends that she was done with the relationship but didn't want to deal with the angst of a break-up so she was being as controlling and mean as she could just to make him mad, in the hope that he would get sick of it and leave her without a scene.

You need to take some time off from this girl. She's not on the same emotional maturity level as you are. You're thinking long-term and she's behaving like a teenager who's still entertaining her options. When a person genuinely loves someone, they don't treat them like she's treating you. I think you know that, deep down, or you wouldn't be asking the internet for advice. It may hurt to take a break from your goal of finding a dream partner but if this isn't meant to be, trying to draw it out will likely only make both you and her unhappier for longer.

im not really sure what's going on with her, since i'm still a high school student

but to me, maybe she's jealous of your ex, or something like that. i dont know, maybe you should just try saying sorry even if you didn't do anything wrong, and then ask her "what's going on?' maybe something happened, or maybe you did something without even knowing it. girls can be really sensitive, trust me... if i like a guy, and he does or says something, it can hurt 50000 times more than if any other person had done or said the same thing. you should try asking her what happened and why you guys are like this now.. ask her if you did something wrong and tell her that you just want to know what you did wrong so you can fix it. apologize if needed. i know you just want to make things right again and it can be hard. but if you have no doubts that she still has feelings for you, then you need to make things right. im sure that she still loves you because if she didn't she wouldn't be treating you this way. i've had some problems and fights with this guy that i am so in love with. and i'll tell you what i was thinking. i just wished that he would take a step forward, was so frustrated when he didn't know what he did wrong and wouldn;t even apologize.. but you know what? it made it all better when he'd ask me what he did wrong, even though he was clueless... and he would do everything he could do make me not mad anymore. i thought it was the sweetest thing and it showed that he cared about being with me. so i think that your best bet would be doing the same and just showing her that she means everything to you and that you'd go the extra mile to make everything all better. trust me, just keep calling or messaging, whatever works the best.. don't annoy her, but just try to make things better by asking her what you can do..

i know how you feel in a way, and i also kind of know what she's feeling.

im sorry if this didn't help, but i really hope it did.(: please feel better(:

I very sorry about your break up. Here is thing I am going to tell you is do you two really love each other because no matter what relationship everyone is going to be in we are all going to have some fight and it maybe stupid and it okay, but the key thing is to work it out and the best thing is communication, listen to each other one at a time, be honest, and conclusion with the issue that all it take. Now I know I am a girl; she would probably bring it up maybe use it against you, but try not to go back at it you know defending who right or wrong because if you do that then you never going no where with this relationship. The reasons why the key tools that I given work is because it work for me and my boyfriend and yes we both plan for life to be together, but we both plan that everything work out both our family maybe that some issue that come up because of course people say that it is different when two people are married and dating wise. We have known each other four year in high school and it is going to two year in relationship basically we are like high school relationship. I know your age b/w you two is different now have you every ask her about she ever been in a committed relationship herself. Now if she haven't then you probably need to take it slow w/ the relationship planning, but if she have then here is the communication come in you need to know what happen because maybe she is dealing w/ mistrusted or cheating. In my conclusion, if you both love each other then she can't just get over like that even if she show it, but if you meant it then you need to move on everyone can found love it may take 100 time broken heart, but must never stay broken learn something from it. I wish you the best of luck.

she'll most likely call back. a woman in love is an interesting thing she probably is atlest as torn up about breaking up as oyu are. however should oyu get her back let this be a lesson to you..you were in a VERY long relationship. anyone who comes in now is automatically going ot be intimidated because of that. so with that said you need to make sure who ever you date next (or your girlfriend if you get her back ) you establish clearly that they are the priority. and they have nothing to fear of oyur ex. since oyu were with her for 14 years you probably still communicate a lot. well you may have to stop that. it will be hard and i am sure you only consider her a friend but no one wants to be second place.

so make sure if oyu get her back you let her know how much oyu love her, you reduce how much you talk to your ex etc. if you have moved on from your ex it shouldn't be an issue, your paths crossed and now you go two seperate ways. now it's time to devote to oyur current girlfriend

just so u know that women get easily offended by the little things men said to them.

although it's indirectly,no intention,whatsoever.

in my point of view,your ex seems to be seeking your attension.

the more u try to connect to her, the more she's avoiding you.(hell yeah its weird,but true)

yeah.

women get jealous easily too.

ever since she knew about your previous love life,of course she would feel insecure.

she started to get mad,ignore you,pissed you off,blaa blaa blaa

well,i can say that she doesn't want you to talk to other women except her and only her.

you two know each other for quite a long time,.. the way she's acting like that is because she already knew what's your reaction to her > at the end of the day,u will try to get back to her.

my advice is wait for couple of days more and then text her that you want to see her at __pm,on __,say that u will wait for her..

if she comes,do something special to her.,it can be like serenade her in front of the public..u know,romantic stuff that u've never done before with her.make it crystal clear to her that you love her deeply and want her back in your life...its only her in your eyes.NEVER try to bring up the things that you guys fought about/the other women.

or if she didn't come,,express your true feeling on paper.write thousands of "im sorry" note or whatever then paste it in front of her house..include roses or a gift(thing that she had been longing to buy)

this might sounds crazy and lame,but it actually can work

women can easily melt with those stuff that i said above.

well,just my 2 cents tho..

best of luck :)

what else can you expect? she's 21. she doesn't know what she wants in life right now. it's very disappointing because if she doesn't see what she has right now. then once she's lost it then she will want it back and then it'll be too late. you should talk to her and let her know how you feel and if she still acts like a kid. then let her go. and it'll be pretty hard but you can't be the only one trying really hard in a relationship.

lol i used to be exactly like her but ive changed now anyway she gets jealous when your with other girls which why she gets angry and cuts the phone.

It must seem to you as though she can drop all her feelings and ignore you but really she doesn't she want you think that because really she wants attention.... as in you begging her to take you back for intance when she said she gonna go out with her cousin instead she just wants you to be like oh im sorry i come see you right now....kind of thing

Good luck

So, let me get this right. You're 33, she's 21 and you were together 14 years.... so at the beginning you were 19 and she was 7?

Sometimes in life you have to just give,and not expect anything in return.Try being as selfless as possible.It's hard,but it will pay off in the end.That is if you Truly love this person,which it seems you do.

I think you already know the answer to this one, she's manipulative and immature and life's too short to play games with her. Move on.