Should I just go with the flow or anyone have any suggestions?

Reading your husbands side of things on both posts...I gotta say, you are leaving out some very vital information. What I gather is that...YOU were the unfaithful one and now he is left dealing with a tarnished marriage that YOU created. Funny how there are always two sides to every story. Now he is the one who was hurt, and he is going through the motions of whether to trust you again or give up. I can't blame him. He hasn't cheated on you at all it seems...why would you do this to the man you married? Why? You need to put the sex issue aside...that's not even the problem here...be happy he still sleeps with you still. You need to work it out with him now...if he even wants you anymore..since you are the one who created this mess... Sounds like you both have took eachother for granted on more than one occasion and sounds like you both WANT to fix this...so DO IT...and from here on out, honor this marriage...there are people out there who are single and lonely. NOW BOTH OF YOU LISTEN UP>>>DO you really wanna be out there dating in this crazy disease infested world? Do you want to meet people at bars only to find out they are drug users, party animals, drunks, players, cheaters, etc... NO YOU DON"T because the grass isnt always greener on the other side...so get together and save this marriage. Come on now, you two have a history. This marriage still may be worth fighting for. Anna: You have to admit that you failed him and hope he has the heart to forgive you....AGAIN. and dont let there be a next time. To Anna's husband: You sound as if you are on the fence not sure which direction to fall...and I hope that you will be forgiving and willing since you still have an ounce of love for her...maybe get out of town for a week and start there to see if there is anything left. I will keep you both in my prayers!

Yet again a very big part of it left out. Sometimes you don't want to let things go but you have to because you know it just isn't good for you. I love you to death I do not want to end it but you have cheated on me and snuck around behind my back more than once and the only answer I get is "Sorry I don't know what else to say". I am sorry if you feel used and I am sorry if I am being indecisive it's just hard to not dwell on it when we are living in the same house. It could have been forever, I even tried my hardest and got over you doing this before. The point in space is to get me away from this toxic relationship to get my head right.

Turn him loose and stop with the sex and everything else. If he wants to move on, he has to get up and MOVE ON!

Otherwise, he needs to make a decision to recommit to the marriage, go to counseling, and make it work. Gosh, I don't know what happened in the past, but he kinda sounds like a drama queen!

He's saying two different things. One is, "Let's date other people" and the other is "You're the only one for me." So which is it? It is NOT both!

If you don't lay out some boundaries, he will continue to use you. Someone who avoids commitment, but wants sex is using you--and it does not matter whether they are married to you.

Good luck, whatever happens. :-)

A friend of mine went through this, so all I can say is leave him you are to good for him. I mean if you are such a loving person you to try to work things out, you should find someone who would want you to only be with him. Not someone who will have sex with you and then say you should live your life with other guys. If he truly cared for you he wouldn't want to think of you with anyone else but you. Stay Strong

Go with the flow and just keep working on your marriage. Sounds like your both finding your way slowly. Just give it more time. Don't know what you did, but good luck.

he is a jerk and using you for sex. cut him off. tell him that you take his advise and you are going to see other guys, but you cannot do that while having sex with him because it will not be fair to them. see how he feels then.

Um... I think he's just using you for sex.