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I need help trying to get my life back together! I don't know where to start...help?
I will try to make this as brief as I can. But I'm 21 will be 22 in two months. Currently live at home with my mom and 3 siblings. I don't work or go to school and my life is a complete mess !
I moved out in January of this year across country to go to culinary school. It was a blast. I had a great time but only lasted about 5 months due to financial difficulties with living on my own. So I came back home. I tried to go back to community college in September but quickly lost interest and stopped attending. Since middle of May, I searched for MONTHS looking for a job but with the economy it was tough. No one was hiring until Halloween came around and i got a seasonal position but was laid off right after Halloween.
So now I'm jobless again. It wasn't a big deal to me at first because I was in a band that was going on a national tour in January. But since my bandmate and I have been fighting so much we broke up.
Now I feel so hopeless and I don't know what to do with my life.
I have absolutely nothing to live for and no purpose.
I really wanted to pursue a musical career but that's "iffy".
My only stable career interest is culinary, but the culinary school I went to is across country and I would not be able to move back there. I took out about a $50,000 loan to go to that school and now its all down the drain.
I have no money, no car, no job absolutely nothing.
I'm not the best looking gal in the world either, so I can't just marry a rich man to support me.
My dad told me I should just join the military but I don't want that to be my last option.
What can I do to get my life together? PLEASE help me before I just kill myself.
3 Answers
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
It's tough what you are going through... But you know sometimes when it gets really dark you can see the stars!
Sit with yourself and check what are things basics that you need to have your life back together... We all have our Highs and lows but sometimes the best solutions are hard to achieve... in your case the easy way out is to simply give up... PLEASE DONT THINK THIS WAY!
Life is full of opportunities... Discover yourself you were born for a reason and remember that you have an input in whatever you do to the people around you... and believe me sometimes we go through phases in life that we feel we are so helpless and there is nothing to do about it... but they all pass sometimes without even noticing...
Be strong be patient and ambitious... nothing comes just like that you need to excel and deep down you will start feeling satisfied with yourself...
Also why dont you try and fix things with your bandmate... maybe you can resolve your issues...
Just have hope and believe in yourself... I am sorry for what you are going through but remember that whatever obstacles life puts for us its meant that its testing us and we should overcome these obstacles because life is beautiful, specially after a rainy day and the sun will shine for you...
- 1 decade ago
Hang in there,
You have 5 months experience at a culinary school, put it on your CV and start looking for kitchen jobs at your local restaurants or bakeries. If there are none, try the kitchen jobs at the local hospital or nursing home. What about catering?
It may not be glamorous but take Jamie Oliver and Curtis Stone as an example, they started at the bottom and worked their way up in the "culinary" world. Get a job in a kitchen so you can get the "hands" on experience that you need to move on to something better.
Now I know you don't want to join the military but I did find some careers in the navy that may be of some interest and wouldn't hurt to take a look...
Food, Restaurant & Lodging
http://www.navy.com/careers/enlisted/food/
Music
http://www.navy.com/careers/enlisted/music/
Perhaps you could join a band or start your own?
Have you thought about posting some of your music on myspace?
I mean who knows, you could find a job working in a restaurant kitchen that also needs bands to play at the front of the house too. Keep your eyes peeled and don't give up!
All the best :)
- 1 decade ago
yes you are having one of the lows of what i call the roller coaster of life ....but hang in there and know that things will get better....they always do. My suggestion is to tell someone what you are feeling if you are truly thinking about suicide, a friend, your parents, dr. 911 or suicide hot line.
you need to deal with that issue first.
secondly you need to make an effort every day in some way to get a job.
lastly you need to realize that yes you have some messed up things going on but it isn't as bad as it could be you have your health and your loved ones.
