Muslims! What do i do about this?

I think first you and your husband should come to the conclusion that talking religion around this man is a bad idea. Not only because any efforts speaking to him are a waste of time, as he is not interested in learning anything from you... but also because he probably realizes no one is willing to point out his behavior to him, and he might take this as a green light to intentionally be an insulting person.

While it is sad that the family does not speak up, if they are decent people they probably feel very uncomfortable, and are simply too afraid to start a big family feud. It might not be brave of them, it may not be the right thing to do, but they are probably sitting there just wishing the whole conversation will blow over when this guy starts talking.

As far as the things he says not having to do with religion, even there I would say you and your husband should simply avoid speaking with him when possible. Not ignore him, but be cordial, and stick to greetings. If he asks a question, make it a yes or no answer or as short as possible, and don't let yourselves be drawn into a conversation with him.

With the way he treats your sister, honestly I would not bring this up to the entire family. If you are concerned, take her out to lunch or something, and let her know privately that you are worried about her welfare. While it might seem like a good idea to get the family involved as one, keep in mind your sister is an adult, and she is choosing to be with him. The entire family going after him is only going to cause tension between you and your sister, rather than help her.

Me personally... the most I would do, as far as getting in the middle of this guy and your sister, is come to her defense when he does say something. Rebuttal the insult by saying something good about her. Your not attacking him, but at the same time you are making it known that you respect and lover her enough to speak up on her behalf. If anyone takes offense to that, too bad for them, it's their problem they don't see her worth.

If it is a matter of respecting your husband though, and things get too uncomfortable... at that point, you have every right to let your family know you feel they are rejecting your marriage or husband, and start spending less time with them if they can't change. But let your sister and her husbands situation be a seperate thing, as it should be. Otherwise the entire family is going to be put in the middle of two opposing relationships, feel as if they have to choose sides... and this always ends badly.

Salam :) I'm a Muslim teenager living in Canada. I wear hijab alhamdullilah and it's for the most part accepted here since i live in a big city with a sizeable Muslim population. I do get the few ignorant comments and idiots at school though who ask stuff like "yo got a bomb under there hahaha". But the hardest part is being different from your friends. Being a Muslim, parties, alcohol dating boys wearing revealing clothing etc is haram, and while I don't want to do that anyway, it can be a little awkward to have to explain why I don't do it to people who consider it just a part of being a teenager and its ordinary to them. Muslims living in Muslim countries definitely have it easier when it comes to fitting in. And with food it can be a little tricky but I always try to read the label if I'm not sure of the ingredients. But I wouldn't wanna be any other religion no matter how difficult it gets and how different I feel from everyone else, I'm glad to be Muslim :)

My goodness! And i thought i had it tough! i am also a revert Alhamdulillah, and no one from my family is. At first it was very, very awkward and uncomfortable when topics such as this would come up and i would feel like i had to "explain myself" or "justify my reasons". they just could not accept the fact that Islam is what completed me. However my family is very loving and are open minded, so over months, they started to understand and accept my ways.

you should talk to your parents about why you switched religions, it helped me clarify things up with my mom. make sure they know you still love them, you and your husband respect them and would never do anything to hurt them. show them that you think your sister's finacee is not anything like that. that he would never do for them what you and your husbamd would. they may not agree, but you will get your point across Inshallah. some people are blinded from the truth that lies right in front of them.

I wish you best of luck with whatever happens. You are so strong to be going through this and dealing with it Subhanallah!

Aslam-o-Alikum,

How are you sister? First of all, welcome to Islam...Second, I am not going to judge your sister's fiance, but I will say this, you should have an open talk with your family especially with your sister and explain what kinda person he is and they need to stop ignoring his behavior....he is not a child, he is a grown up and the way you have described sounds like he is a child or I should say worse than a child. Again, have a talk with your family and if you don't listen to you and you should keep your self away from people like him, because you will get nothing other than hurting your feelings your and more importantly people like him will show no respect towards your faith...May Allah guide us all...Ameen

I hope I helped

first off, i'm not muslim, but heres whats up

you can't convince them, so stop trying. older christians in america are just stuck in their ways, and all they need is time. you can't convince those kind of people, they just need time to accept you. if they love and care about you or your husband it'll happen. if they'd rather stay stuck in their ways...well theres nothing you can do. families get broken up over religion all the time.

as far as your sisters fiance...your parents might have some misplaced animosity against muslims because...older american christians all do. thats a stereotype, but really. all the misinformation about islam, you can't blame them. anyways, so maybe they like him because he's so...well anti-muslim. and if they like him for that...they must be blind. some parents.

i'd probably just try and be a good daughter and let them accept you or reject you. be ready for either.

Salam Alaikum,

This is not an Islam Christianity thing, its education on all fronts.

Khair inshAllah

Anyone threatening to do such things, should be checked into mental ward for evaluation and treatment.

perhaps they dont want to hear your husband preaching his religion to them.... i to am muslim and if someone talks about christianity i too tune out, i am what i am. i love islam. as for your sis fiance, thats just sick... ut its her choice not yours.

if u have a great husband then you should be happy and not worry about someone elses

salam

I guess your family have no respect for your husband or for you. Your husband need to stay away from them

I guess some families are really stubborn. If you really want to help ur sis. speak 2 her privately. if it doesn't work, speak w/ ur mom.

give them some time.