Security in a relationship?

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Why is it that I don't feel secure in my relationship? does that mean that there is a flaw in the relationship or a flaw in me....I always feel that my partner doesn't put me above others and that he will save himself rather than the family if something happens..(he says its untrue but I dont believe him) are these feelings my subconscious mind telling me that hes no good and that I need to find someone else that will make me feel secure and safe? or am I delusional and paranoid?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

trust your gut. i felt that way too and my husband tried to convince me i was delusional and paranoid, and then i discovered the truth about him. he was a porn addict, liar, wouldn't protect me from his abusive parents, broke up my friendships.

listen to your gut. it is seldom wrong, especially if it is sending you the same message consistently.

Anonymous · Answer

It depends on if it happens in every relationship or just this one.  If it happens often, you might need to do some soul searching... I don't think it's possible for anyone to "make" you feel safe.  I think that's something that you need to find within.

Butterfly..... · Answer

If you are secure in yourself and happy with who you are he will be happy with you too. You need to believe in yourself and look after yourself first, everything else will follow then. Replace the suspicions and future scenarios with healthy habits.

Danielle_Marie · Answer

the same here. follow that voice in your head its telling you the truth!!!! u will see eventually everything will come to the light eventually

Anonymous · Answer

maybe he is that way, maybe you're paranoid. you don't give enuf info to back up your claim.try counseling it may help you

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