As a mother, would it be wrong for me to encourage my daughter to pursue her gay brother's boyfriend?

Of course I don't agree with your idea. This belongs on a Jerry Springer episode.

And please don't use the word "blessing" in the context of encouraging one child to pursue another child's love interest.

Stealing boyfriends or girlfriends from your siblings or friends is always wrong! I think your belief that your son should become straight is a disappointing one, but I am so happy to hear you did not disown him. That takes courage, especially when your husband wants it.

Also, your son will never trust you again if you encourage this, even if he were to decide he was straight (which is not likely. Homosexuality is not a choice. If it were, there would be a lot less of it, because obviously it brings a lot of shame and grief to a lot of undeserving people).

Lots of sisters have had their relationships strained and ruined because of this. Don't think it will be any different just because your son is gay! It is even worse when a parent is involved.

If any of that is true then quite frankly you sound like an awful person and i truly feel sorry for both your children being brought up by someone so ignorant, who favors one of their children over the other and willing to intentionally hurt their own child emotionally.

Being gay is a very natural and normal part of life, homosexuality even exists in the animal kingdom. You cannot change a persons sexuality it is something innate with it's roots in biology. We never have any control over the people we find attractive in life.

As a parent you are supposed to love and support your children, this is something obviously you are unable to do. Don't blame your son for your divorce, if your ex husband is stupid enough to let something as small as someones sexual orientation ruin your marriage then the blame is solely and completely on you and your husband for being so short sighted and selfish. Asking someone to be something they aren't is an unreasonable demand and you sound like a disgusting human being.

I feel for your poor children.

It is not okay either. It is normal that you dont trust either your brother or you mom. They have shown you that violence is right. They approve of the use of violence but have a double standard with you. They are not true to their values. But at the same time, they are supportive about your situation. So what you can do is explain to them that you would feel more supported in your situation if they were more true to their principles. That if they would stop acting abusively, it would be more easy for you to trust them. If later on, the situation doesnt change and you still feel that you cannot trust them, then you should learn to keep a distance from them, since you cannot expect to be helped or supported emotionally by people you dont trust... you get the idea? edit: your brother should press charges with your little girl as witness of what she saw. i hope, for your own good that you do this after he's made the effort of flying down to where you are. you need to go to the police with him. and stop making excuses about it. this is what needs to be done, no matter what your mother has done no matter what your brother has done in the past. he is there to help you do this. set a good example for your daughter. teach her that its not right to hit woman. this is for your daughters good too.

Your son will never 'turn back straight'. It's who he is and you have the choice whether to accept him or loose him.

This poor guy has been rejected by his family for being himself (being gay to him would be as natural as being straight is to us. How would you feel if your parents has reacted this way to you because you liked men?) and now you want his boyfriend, the only person showing him affection, to be stolen away by his own sister.

Plus I'm sure your son and his boyfriend are very happy and you, as a mother, should at least want your son to be happy.

You mean you hates gay but don't mind your daughter having a relationship with a bisexual man? What if one day he dump her for another man?

p.s. being gay is not like having a cold. It's not a sickness. If you think it's a sickness, you're the one who's sick- it's call homophobic.

HELL NO I don't agree. What kind of parent are you? Is your hatred for gays that strong that you will encourage your child to steal her brother's boyfriend? You are pathetic. You're ex-husband is pathetic. You're daughter is pathetic. And IF your son's boyfriend really likes your daughter, he's pathetic too. Your son doesn't deserve ANY of you in his life.

If what you're most worried about is "If Christian and I ever have a chance of bonding again..."

Yeah, don't worry about that. Probably not going to be an issue.

So having your conniving wretch of a daughter steal her brother's boyfriend will turn him straight? Sure it will. I f you believe that I'd like to talk to you about a bridge- not the one you live under

Your a very sick woman, who should never have become a mother.

Your idea is abhorrent to every right minded parent. I strongly suggest that you see a Doctor.