Behavior problems at school with 6 year old boy?

It's wonderful that you have been punishing for red days but also rewarding for green days.

It sounds like you've been all over the road when it comes to discipline and reward. Try picking one method of punishment and stick with it.

Maybe try taking a favorite toy away each time he gets a red day, and have him earn each toy back by getting green days.

Each day before school, make sure to remind him "We want a green day today." Reminders go a long way.

Be consistent. He might not be convinced to behave better when he has one toy taken away, but once he gets a few more red days and sees his toy box getting emptier and emptier, it might convince him to try harder for green days. Just be consistent, in both discipline and reward.

Our situations sounds a lot alike. However, I am the step-mother to a 7 year old girl. The week building up to her mom's visitation the behavior seems to be the worst. She knows she's not supposed to do some thing, is aware there will be consequences, but continues to go through with her choices. We had tried every ting under the sun, took away toys, being grounded, took away activities, positive sticker charts (those would work for a week, then she didn't care) She has been in counseling for 5 months and the counselors said constantly praising the child when they do good and having them sit down and write when they choose negative behavior. I know this can be hard when the child seems to chooses negative behavior. When my step daughter chooses a negative behavior we'll have her sit down, think about and answer 3 or 4 questions (questions all depend on the situation) like; Why was this behavior wrong? How should it be handled next time? Was this behavior safe? Who should you apologize to? This helps her build the skills to make better choices. At school I was getting emails on negative behavior daily, we figured out an action plan for at home and coordinated it with the teacher at school, so everyone was on the same page and the child was aware of it. We focused on positive consequences, when we received a good report from the teacher, she could take her lunch the next day, etc. This has seemed to work wonders.

6 Year Old Behavior Problems

What the doctor said is true: Your son is quite normal, and is just doing what little boys do. Disobedience has a tendency to go away with age. However his physical disobedience to his school teachers may be influenced by many factors - some you can control and others you can't. Meetings with teachers and increased communication can help. Also consider enrolling your son in a sport or afterschool program of his choice, which can provide structure to his life. Above all else, trust your motherly instincts and never fail to love your child in any situation. Hope I could help I teach part time pre-k to 12th grade. Good luck!

try something that he can understand better like candy instead of money. it doesn't have to be big things, like get a bag of M & M's and put one in his jar each time he does something good or gets a green mark at school. at the end of each day he gets his rewards the better his behavior the more candy he gets. But save M & M's for whichever candy you choose just for your rewarding system.

Make sure he understands that his behavior at school plays a key role in this as well as the behavior at home. and also make sure he understands what is considered good and what is not,for example, talking or playing while the teacher is teaching is not good and he will not earn candy if he chooses to do that.

My son is 11 and we use a chart for him that has the specific things he struggles with and he earns time on the Wii (which is his great passion). The more daily goals he meets the more Wii time he gets. Good Luck!

My grandson used to act like that in Kindergarten, too. I did some research on the subject and we found that taking foods with red, yellow, blue, and green dyes in them helped his behavior problem. It seems that the dyes were affecting him badly. He does much better now. You can try this to see if it helps.

first things first. your kid needs to know you love him. I understand you are the step-father, but he's still your kid. and you have to love him and respect him for that. tell him every day when he does something good that you love him and you are proud of him. "Jimmy, thank you so much for putting your glass it the sink. you did a good job and I'm so proud of you." positive reinforcement goes a long way with a young child. my girls are the same age, and they eat it up when I tell them I'm proud of them for something. it can be something as simple as "I only had to tell you one time to go get in the bed and you did it. I'm so proud of you. you make me happy when you do what I tell you." I try to remember to do it with all of the little things. on the bigger things, they ask me "momma, aren't you so proud of me?" they want to please me. they want to make me happy. I do tell them when they disappoint me, and I do discipline them. they try harder to make me proud, but they do understand that sometimes things happen that makes me sad. also, keep in mind that since you're having to share your kid with his father, it probably confuses him a bit. he's allowed to do certain things there that he probably isn't at your house. sometimes, transition is hard for children. we did this for a while when my oldest girl (age six, my step-daughter) spent three months across the country with her mom for visitation. when she came back, she was unruly, and it took some time to get her back on track. for a while, it was like that when she visited her mom's mom here in town. she was allowed to do things there because she was the baby of the grandchildren that are not allowed at home. once she understood that the rules were different, and we don't care what she does when she's at her mamaw's if she is allowed, but she was expected to follow the rules at home, things started going a lot smoother. if that could be a problem, address it. he's old enough to understand that he may be allowed to do things at his father's house that aren't allowed at home. it may make the transition easier, making school easier.

when it comes to school, talk to him in the evening about what he's not allowed to do in school, such as anything the teacher is consistently sending notes about. remind him why it's not accepted, and what the consequences will be. this should be a Q/A type, with him answer why it's not allowed or accepted. "we don't hit our friends at school. do you know why we don't hit?" (went through this with my youngest, also age six) also, reiterate that it makes you proud when he comes home with a "good note" telling you how nice he has been in school. and ask the teacher to send home a good note if he did anything good at school. it doesn't have to be a long note, just a starting point. helped pass out juice boxes. or, held the door when we went out for recess. you just need something you can tell him you're proud of. once you get a couple of those under your belt, and he sees how proud you are of the little things, he'll probably try harder to get to the others. it will take some time. but it's well worth it! best of luck!

You didn't state what the actual behavioral problems were.

Does it only happen at school? If so, it's a school problem, not a child problem.

Personally, I hate those tracking systems. Children are people, not dogs.

All the best.