please help i'm devastated?

My 19 year old cat had to be put to sleep almost 5 years ago and I still remember the physical pain I felt in my heart for a long time afterwards. For many months I couldn't think of her without crying and I would get choked up if anyone mentioned her name. I missed her terribly and I honestly thought that I would never come to terms with losing her, but the old cliche about time being a great healer is true. I know it doesn't seem like it right now, but the pain does eventually begin to fade and there will come a time that when you think of your cat you will be able to do so with a smile instead of tears. Once I had reached the stage where I could remember the many happy memories we shared, I felt blessed that I was privileged to have her with me for so long.

I lived in a foreign country at that time, so my girl is buried many thousands of miles away. At first I found that very upsetting, but now when I look up at the stars I take comfort thinking that she is one of them, watching over me wherever I am. I know that she will always have a special place in my heart, and will be with me in spirit no matter where I am.

It's clear to see how much you loved your cat, and I'm sure she knew this so she wouldn't want to see you unhappy because of her. I found the Pet Loss web site brought me a lot of comfort and I hope it can do the same for you.

http://www.pet-loss.net/emotions.shtml

Being realistic here, selling that land may provide a sense of closure to the loss of your kitty. You need to move forward with your life and selling that land can create new beginnings for you and your partner. As hard as it will be to do, just remember of all the good things that will happen because of it.

We buried our first dog out at my grandparents farm and I was devastated to learn that they were selling it to move into town. My dad and I went the night before the new owners took possession and said our final good byes. It was heart breaking but it had to be done and looking back now, when we said our final goodbyes it was like we were finally letting her go knowing that we'll be OK.

As for the broken heart, that's completely up to you to mend it. There's no cure except time and give yourself the time that you need. The pain does eventually dull and then subside but there will always been a special place in your heart for your cat that no one else can take away from you. And don't forget the memories.

I know how you feel.......I've lost many animals over the years, and it never gets any easier. I've been fortunate to be able to bury mine next to my home, and not have to move. I realize that THEY ARE NO LONGER THERE.......only the "shell" that we could SEE, HOLD, AND LOVE. But, the "essence", or "soul" of your "little girl" is with the angels, now, and it's time for you to let her go.

If you and your partner are ready to move on, just know that your "loving, life companion" would want you to. She's watching over you, and is probably hurting FOR you, since you haven't been able to "go forward". When the time is right, she'll "send" you another animal ( cat, dog, rabbit, whatever ) for you to care for.......as she knows you have a lot of love to give.

Please don't dwell on the past. I'm sure your "little girl" wouldn't want you to stay in such pain for so long. Remember her the way she was......a lifetime companion, friend, someone who was with you through all the good AND bad times. You cared for her for over 18 years, and that's a good amount of time, and you've been grieving for quite awhile. Now, "pack it away" and go on with your life.......just like SHE would WANT you to. After all, she's in a BETTER PLACE, now, and no longer suffering.......and she doesn't want YOU to suffer anymore, either.

Hope this helps...........You and your girlfriend get on with your "future", and when you get settled in your new place.......adopt another "best friend". I'm sure your "star" will lead you to the right one.

Good luck.......

You have lost a beloved friend, and it has left a void in your life. She was part of your family.

You are not alone, but you would be well advised to contact others in a pet loss grief group to help you over this loss. Many start at a place called the Rainbow Bridge, and I have posted a link.

We never forget our furbuddies, but we do have to move on.

You gave her a good life. 18 years old is old for a cat! Remember that you took good care of her and she had a happy life. I'm so sorry about your loss. :( I would be very said if one of my pets died. Maybe later buy another cat. There are many cats out there needing good homes.

wow! you have been through a lot. I really hope you feel better! But I beleive that you should stay where you are. If he really loved you he would understand, and be accepting into letting you stay. If not, you always have to leave what is best behind. It is very hard though, I hope you get better. = * (