Women, do you prefer to have a sexual experience with a guy, or to sexually 'service' a guy?

OMG. Are you serious?

That is one seriously twisted up brain you've got there.

"maybe its psychologically more effective- say for instance your man has a straying eye and is not happy with you for whatever reason, you may find you are more interested in sex as a tool to assuage him)."

A tool to assuage him? For what???? That's going to what...make his eyes fall out so they can no longer stray?????

I don't know if I should be insulted that you seem to really believe that woman are that ignorant to believe that or if you really do live in some bizarre alternate universe where you and you alone don't feel the need to deal with reality.

"...you may be refer to a situation that is more time efficient..."

More time efficient? Like it would take less time to put it in someones mouth instead of that other hole? lol.

"So obviously you simply don't mind then.... Over and over women don't say a word against it."

Oh LORDY you seriously must be very thick.

You don't still believe that you're a friggin' Picasso 'cause your mom hung your kindergarten crayon drawing on the "special place of honor 'cause you are most definitely brilliant.." part of the fridge do ya?

If you have a woman who's suckin' your whatever and then rolls over to simply SLEEP it's usually for one reason and one reason only, because YOU ARE MISERABLE AT BRINGING A WOMAN TO ORGASM.

Duh.

You're not worth the effort. Not worth her even removing her t-shirt for.

She's appeasing you you idiot. You are there simply for "company", entertainment, money, food, shelter, or whatever

and you are being USED. - DUH!

And you're so thick you've been thinking you're "all that" and such hot shite that most women just want to get down and do whatever to your whatever! LOL! You're TOO funny!

Believe me sweety - when she finds someone who can do her right she'll be all right there naked and up in his "bidnizz" the proper way.

Please cop yourself on before you wind up alone and drunk like that old alcoholic on the corner who sits on the candy store steps, leaning, and half falling over into the street with that paper bag in his hand.

UNBELIEVABLY you haven't copped yourself on to the fact that all these women you speak of have moved on from you! Lol!

How does that LARGE FACT "figure" into your "psychological" assumptions? Hm?

Oopsy, didn't figure that part did ya?

"This, if true, seems to further suggest a very different vantage from which men and women socially and psychologically view sex and sex acts."

If what's true? That the people you choose to whip your whatever out for are part of the social strata that will use you for whatever they feel they can get from you (which is clearly NOT an orgasm) means they have not a very DIFFERENT psych. view but THE EXACT SAME psychological view that MEN have regarding sex and sex acts.

These are the people you, for some reason which I can only guess is because they're good for blowin' your whatever... have CHOSEN to be with.

This is ALL ABOUT YOU BABY...not them.

Take responsibility for your actions.

Make much better CHOICES. You'll be amazed at how positively your life changes.

And if one of them does let you have full on sex with them, don't be foolish enough to ask "was I any good..." because what you'll get is the same thing as mummy hangin' that crappy crayon drawing on the fridge.

duh.

Women certainly aren't out to hurt you which is the ONLY ipso facto "in general" statement anyone can say regarding women.

When she starts to undress HERSELF to have sex (not you doin' it dude) and stops wantin' to blow your whatever...then you'll know. No need to ask.

For now, to save your feeble brain from all this distorted mind bending from trying to figure out what a 15 year easily figures outt, I'll just refer you to here where it's

TOTALLY LEGIT NSA (no strings attached) bj's and j/offs and whatnot with only one slight difference.

Your brain can thank me later....

http://tinyurl.com/ybgmec6

I think "psychologically" that instead of taking responsiblity for your OWN actions you'd rather start to rationalize what women - you know - "in general" lol! - are like and make them all out to be like this:

http://tiny.cc/nJci4

I don't much care for oral sex, but I do it when my husband asks me to. I am however quite taken aback that apparently there are men who expect to be sexually satisfied by women without giving anything in return. I assume they are all suffering from BCS (Bill Clinton Syndrome). You must be a very selfish bunch, is all I can say.

I feel about it much the way Florence King did. Writing in the National Review, discussing the Bill clinton/Lewinsky incident, she said:

"What turns the scandal into a primal bog of arrested development is Clinton's selfish sexual preference. it's on a par with the innocent selfishness of an infant whose world is its wants, the blind selfishness of a foetus battening onto its host. I can't understand why a woman would tolerate such one-sidedness. Back in my wild youth, men were so solicitous of female pleasure. "Do you like this? . . . Does that feel good? . .Here? . . .There?" They went on and on, sometimes irritatingly so, but their hearts were in the right place, even if some other things weren't. No man ever asked me to service him as an isolated act, but evidently today's men expect it - or they will now."

Like Florence King, I find the sexual passivity and selfishness of modern men very unappealing, but if you know women who are satisfied with such a one-sided relationship, and if you find it satyisfying too, then so be it. There is no accounting for taste.

Well, guess what? The men that get oral sex before intercourse are the men that ask for it. Women aren't mind readers. Now I'm trying to make sense of the rest of this. You think giving a woman oral sex will be the end of you getting anything you want? Not if you let them know that you aren't through and they care about your needs. I get the feeling that you don't know how to communicate with a sex partner. Your very serious tone and way of expressing yourself is kind of strange, in case you didn't know.

Hm your sex life must be weird. When I was in a relationship it was pretty much equal between us, we'd usually both orgasm from sex (I didn't always though) and then we both gave each other oral as well, now I think about it, I received a lot more of it. So we came just about as much as each other (not that that's all there is to it, because it can still be fun) but best of all we both enjoyed it and it was something for both of us.

In casual sex I don't give oral before because it's yucky with a condom and you get diseases without! Though I had a one night stand and the guy offered to go down on me, and tried! I stopped him due to diseases. Now I have a regular casual sex partner and even though it's a stupid situation and not a relationship, he is always offering to and going down on me to please me just as much...again it's mutual fun...that's what all my experiences have been, sorry that you suck at having fun with women...

I don't mind giving head to a guy--I enjoy watching his reaction. HOWEVER, the night better not end there! I would find it terribly selfish and self-centered of the man if I went down on him, he finished, then didn't reciprocate in some way. How is that not rude?

Now, if we're in a setting where sex isn't possible (semi-public or such), then of course him not reciprocating is fine. And in those situations, sometimes a woman does it for the satisfaction of watching her man getting off--or knowing that she got her man off. Sure, that's fun. But you better be sure as hell that I want him to make it up to me later! lol. Think of it as a form of foreplay.

I think the women who give a ******* and want nothing in return might just have lower sex drives. They want to please their man and keep him happy without having to engage in sex. Personally, that's not the way I'd want it, but I have a high sex drive.

I've never used sex as a "tool." I genuinely enjoying servicing my guy and THEN having an experience with him. Why choose?

Lol.

I find it amusing that you're only just beginning to figure this out.