Why is it when a man hits a woman, it's abuse, but when a woman hits a man, it's her standing up for herself?

I've always wondered the same thing. Some of the "rules" society has are so stupid.

Women claim they want equality, but they don't even really know the meaning of the word. If they truly want it, they would be letting guys assult them, buying guys an engagement ring worth thousands of dollars, ect.

"The crap that women are so fragile that they cannot do harm to a man is ridiculous and only a stupid person would use that as an excuse that a woman should get away with hitting."

Right...I'm pretty sure that any guy that I hit can kick my ***. Women are physically weaker than men. It's not even a fair fight. It's like hitting a child or an animal.

The women was wrong and what that man should have done was press charges against her. I think a man can defend himself as long as the defense doesn't become an attack. Also, there is power in just walking away. If your mom is really like that, then he should have left.

You might be interested in some of the research out of The Oregon Youth Study over the last decade or so. Basically this series of scientific studies back up your claim, showing that women initiate physical violence against their partner at least as often as men do. So much so, that the researchers are trying to now call all of it "Intimate Partner Violence" to be gender neutral. ("Domestic violence" is too associated with meaning "wife beating" to be gender neutral.)

Catch is - when the man hits first or hits back, in general a lot more damage gets done. But the authors of the study said they were really surprised at how many times the physical violence was initiated by the woman!

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC185863...

The stuff has been written up in the papers a few years ago, like here:

http://usatoday.printthis.clickability.com/pt/cpt?...

Similar situation, IMHO, with kids vs young adults/older kids now days. Back in my day, we kids (say middle school kids) wouldn't dare backtalk an older kid (high school) or young adult because we'd get our a**es kicked. Only question anyone would have had was "why were you so stupid to backtalk someone who could kick your b*tt?" But I've seen kids do all sorts of things now days and just laugh and say "you touch me, you'll go to jail." I hate to say it, I'm old school, a healthy fear of an a**kicking can greatly improve civility.

The women you are describing seem crazy and not the norm. Neither sex should hit the other for any reason except self defense. It is true and ridiculous to deny that women have less muscle mass, smaller size, and lesser strength than men in general. Therefore it would be an unequal fight. For that reason I would support a woman using deadly force if necessary to defend herself or her kids from a male attacker. That's why so many of us have gotten our concealed handgun licenses. It is a mean world out there and no matter how careful and sensible you are there is the possibility of being attacked.

No. You are misunderstanding the word coward. A coward is someone who won't do something because they are afraid. Hitting when someone won't retaliate does not necessarily mean you would refrain from hitting if they would retaliate. Even if that may be the case, hitting in one instance doesn't equal not hitting in another. They are, however, childish idiots who have no concept of self-control, respect, or communication.

We were also taught that if you hit, you get hit back and to expect it. The crap that women are so fragile that they cannot do harm to a man is ridiculous and only a stupid person would use that as an excuse that a woman should get away with hitting.

It is a double standard, and if you don't buy into it, most will claim you are the bad guy.

I have said this once and I will say it again...no man should put his hands on a woman and no woman should put their hands on a man, except if the person is trying to defend him/her self because the other person has a weapon in their hands and it is getting ready to use it on him/her.

When the loud talking and threatening starts walk/run away.

Your mother's boyfriend should cut her loose because she is setting him up for jail time. He's can't take that kind of abuse much longer and one day he is going to snap.

because when a woman hit you you don't end up down. women are less strong than men. BUT it doesn't mean she has to abuse that. so it's not right to hit anyone be it man or women but if you do hit someone, pick someone of your own size

Wow ! Those women in your life are vicious!

Anyone hitting anyone is abuse. And/or assault. I'd press charges!

Violence is not the answer! under ANY circumstance. Men, women, it doesn't matter...there is always a better way to handle things.