An issue with a Mormon co-worker. How should I deal with this?

i think with a calm cool head explain to him how you feel tell him you think he condescends women in the office and cite as many examples as you can, preferably comparitive examples like try to listen to how he talks to males in the office, it could be he is condescending to everyone and thinks everyone is inferior

but the key things are calm cool head and examples to back you up

spike heels huh? fishnets too? (pleasesayyespleasesayyespleasesayyes)

First, keep the spike heels on the ground. I wouldn't blame you for wanting to bust his head open, but there is far more effective means to deal with him.

Ma'am, I know you don't want to challenge his meagerly endowed manhood, but if you want him to respect you, then you are going to have to put him and his religion in it's place. Not only is he making his God look bad, but yours as well because The Mormons proclaim the same God as Christians.

You deal with him with the bible. Ask him this.

"If you are a Christian, (mormon's claim Cross of Christ) why don't you act like one. Challenge him with the fruits of the spirit. Ask him where is the Love, or the joy, or the Peace, or kindness, meekness, gentleness, faithfulness, or longsuffering in his actions towards you. Have him show you in the bible where Jesus treated people like the way he's treating you. Not the mormon bible but the King James Bible. If he tries to use the scriptures about women having their place, tell him you are not in church, he is not your husband, and that this is a poor representation of the God his's trying to sell you. Ask him how he would feel if he was God and he people was making him look bad and treating his children poorly. Ask him how can a Loving God be so rude, if He is a living example of what God wants him to be.

I bet you start in on him like that, it will shut him down. He won't like it coming from you because you are a lady, but remind him he is an ambassador of God has a responsibility to protect the honor of his fellow brothers and sisters in Christ and if he doesn't, then he is weak in the eyes of God.

You may get a nasty disposition at first. But by challenging him to prove your defence is wrong, he will have to get it from the source you respect. God's Word, and not the mormon bible. If he still continues, then he's on the edge of committing adultery. Jesus said if we even have the thought, then we have already committed the crime. That should clear up the sexism in him. If he attempts to beguile you with men being the leaders, remind him that God has placed women leadership since the before King David was born, and that makes you his equal.

The fact that this man is LDS in no way should have any impact on how he behaves or how you handle his poor behavior. As an LDS man he would be and has been reprimanded from the pulpits repeatedly about treating anyone much less women in such a manner so the man is a jerk by any standards and if it has grown to the level of harrassment you should report him - PERIOD!

I would also not hesitate personally to call him on his unacceptable treatment and behavior and tell him he ought to be ashamed of himself as a supposed Christian and LDS member to treat any person much less a WOMAN in such a manner. He isn't your superior in the job place so tell him like it is. There are ignorant domineering men everywhere in the world who treat others and women like this - certainly it isn't in any way a MORMON thing. I don't accept treatment like this from ANY MAN and you shouldn't either.

Phoenix,

I guess it kind of depends on your relative status and position, and how much this irritation makes for a "hostile work environment."

In my place of business, you would be encouraged to report the problem to his superior, and then sit down with him, his superior, your superior and a mediator to try to work the issue out. Failing that, the fellow might well find himself written up for creating a hostile work environment, which is a short step from being out the door.

If his copndescending attitude bothers you, and you're not risking your job, I would recommend meeting it head on, and perhaps involving your superiors, so that it is documented.

Spike heels, huh? Anything else?

*imagination in overdrive*

Leave it. He does it because he is very insecure with his manhood. If you try to further immasculate him, it will get make it worse.

BTW, it's NOT relative to His beliefs that the woman is the weaker vessel or to be sexist. He probably feels threatened by women.

Sounds like a dbag to me (erm...not all Mormons talk like I do, by the way...), and that the only this his behavior has to do with his religion is that he might be using it as a lame excuse to be a jerk. Which makes him a real loser!

I vote for telling him how you feel and to cut it out. If it's sexual harrassment, report it and just bypass him.

Chances are you're not the only one in the office who feels the way you do about this guy.

He is demonstrating immaturity - as a man and as a Mormon. If he is not treating all women as precious creatures who have great influence over all they come in contact with - he is not fully understanding the doctrine and teachings of the LDS church.

I would challenge you not to be aggressive about it - rather, use simple expressions to respond. I also find that slipping into a 'southern belle' type of simper makes the point fairly well. If they're oblivious beyond that - I simply avoid them as they are demonstrating such a lack of observational and social skills to successfully interact and they're simply not worth my time.

best wishes and Merry Christmas

Yeah, that's pretty annoying. I think I would just up and tell him you don't like his condescending attitude.

I'm at BYU and we have gotten a lot of talking to by our professors about this attitude that apparently exists with just a few students--that in turn gives the rest of the university a bad name with a few employers.

I honestly don't think this is something that happens with the majority of Mormon guys.

It's not Mormon doctrine to be sexist, but certainly to treat with respect. I hope you don't consider it offensive if a guy opens a door for you.

Why are you making it a Mormon thing? The guy is socially retarded is all. Believe me acting like that is NOT endorsed by the church. Probably just a habit formed by being ignored by girls all his adolescence.

I think Stagerlee nailed it. If you let the prick get away with it he'll continue. No harm in pulling him up on it babes. In fact, to me it's a no brainer.

If all else fails take him to a quiet empty room and politely inform him that if he doesn't ease up... you'll cut his throat like a royal pig, then punch him in the guts.