i have a christmas party tonight with my husbands best friend... but she has a sister that my hsuband dated in?

Both of you go!

Be sure to tell your husband as you are leaving home how much of a hunk he is and how your are happy that he is your husband! Dote on him at the party! Just have fun and don't worry about the past.

You will have him--following you everywhere!

Put enough positives into him that he would never, ever think of having sex with anyone again, other than you!

Well, she is gonna keep showing up over time in different situations throughout your marriage. If you make him stay home with you, he'll think you don't trust him and if you don't go with him, you will sit at home and wonder and worry...ect. You both have to go and tough it out. In fact, try to find something nice about her and talk to her. You might find that she is not such an evil monster out to get your husband and is actuallly an okay person. *PLUS* It is less likely she will actually sleep with him if she forms a trust relationship of some kind with you.

Hi Jessica,

The past is the past - so what if they dated in the past - you are his present and that is all that should matter. Men will be men, they may think about and lust for others (unfortunately - but women do the same thing), but it's the actions that mean something. Let him go, and you should go with him - just don't make things uncomfortable for the others that will be there. Besides, he is your husband, right? He married YOU right? Have no worries, Jessica, and go and enjoy yourself with your husband.

Good luck.

Sounds like you're having some insecurity about your relationship with him. Think about whether or not there are other problems in your relationship that would make you think that he would cheat on you. If you can't think of any then tell him that you love him and that you're so happy you're together and send him off to his party. Have a good time at your party and be happy that you have a man in your life :D

If you guys do not trust eachother, I wouldnt go. If you think he is going to cheat on you, I wouldn't go. Obviously you guys have some issues in the relationship because you don't know what he would do. That probably happened a long time ago. You have him. She doesn't have him.

If you let him go alone, you'll be thinking that he is cheating on you the whole entire time.

I'd talk to him about it

He's your husband, if he wanted her he'd of married her. Unless he's done something to make you feel he would even think of being with her again then don't worry about it. Get dressed up and hold your head up high because you got the guy!!! Good luck and merry christmas, and have fun!!!

go dont be afraid of them the past is the past and if he is really over her he wont want to spark no old flames and if he does he doesnt love you.

Stop the insecurity, at least for one day. Your train of thoughts is going to drive your husband away if it continues. Feel confident of yourself tonight, lift up your head, be more romantic with your husband than ever, act sexy for him, do somersaults if need be, anything to get that insecurity out of you.

You will feel so proud after wards that he is your man and not hers and that he married you, not her. Be wise, girl....be wise.

Both of you go.

You cannot live your life in a bubble shielded from stressful moments.

Be gracious to his old girlfriend - in fact you might ask her for a few pointers on how to turn him on.

It was in the past who cares. He is with you now. If he realy wanted to be with her he wouldn't have to wait to see her at a party