Advice on immature friend.?

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my "best friend" is a year older than me but she acts like an 8 year old sometimes. (shes 15 im 14)
one day when she came over she took about 25 pictures of me and i looked horrible.  i had just woken up and i was in my jammies and hadn't done my hair. a couple weeks before i uploaded 1 pic of my dog licking her face that looked bad too but i didn't put them on myspace or facebook.  i rarely ever go on myspace but i noticed yesterday she put those ugly pics of me online and tagged me in them! i txted her and demanded that she had to remove them immeadiatly. she flat out refused to! i asked her why she would do this. her response was it was her myspace and she could do watever she wanted with it. i txted her and said she had no right to put my image online without my permission. i asked her why she was being so stubborn. then she said she said now we were even for that picture of the dog licking her. i got really mad and called her and screamed "so this is revenge? this is nothing like what i did. i didn't spread pictures of you online for the world to see! you're being an immature brat! and using the logic of a fkin 8 year old. im not talking to you until those pics are gone!" i hung up quickly. i minute later she said fck u, were not friends anymore. since she wudn't take off the pics i reported them on myspace as a violation of my privacy. did i take it too far?i still have to see her at church and youthgroup. i don't think i wanna be friends anymore but most of my friends are our mutual friends. what should i do if she apologizes? what should i do if she doesn't?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Over the summer, a "friend" and I got in a heated argument about a poor decision to date a guy online. it escalated to her saying horrible things about me to mutual friends, and ended in her and I saying some pretty base things to one another. Throughout the school year, we've had out flare ups, and we've had times where it seemed as if we could be friends again. So I truly know how you're feeling.

From the information above, I can imagine she posted those pictures out of jealousy. You're probably a very pretty girl, and though its ridiculous and, as you said, immature, she most likely wanted people to see a different side of you. A side that maybe wasn't quite flattering. Anyone who would to this to a friend, is obviously not a friend to begin with. But, as we grow and our values change, we discover that those people who were once are friends, are now people we wouldn't want to share a short conversation with. Its part of life. You'll gain a better, nicer, friend in her absence.

All the luck and love in the world ~ ♥

beerbear998 · Answer

I think you are being a little immature, seriously. Is a few bad pictures going to ruin your life or reputation? Your 14, your friend posted some pictures, it is not a big deal! If you really feel like the pictures are going to be such a bad thing, then sit down and talk with her. Killing your friendship over some pictures is just..silly.

Anonymous · Answer

I think you should leave him for a while. If he calls or texts you, ignore it. If he talks to you, act as if he was talking to himself. If you actually do hang out, make sure you hide the video games and anything else that you don't like doing well you do hang out. After a while, you guys can get back together, but if you do, watch him closely, to make sure he doesn't do any thing immature, and if he does, leave him. He needs to learn to grow up, and you need to be the one to tell him that. If he doesn't like it, say oh well and go, you deserve better friends

Anonymous · Answer

Let her apologise to you first, dnt go running after her!
She shudn't have put them online without your permission, i would go mental if someone did that to me without my permission!
I would have told her to f**k off, if she was anything of a friend then she would have taken them off when you asked her to, but she refused so therefore she isnt a friend that you need!
When she realises how stupid it all is and that she is in the wrong she will come crawling back to you!
Trust me!

Anonymous · Answer

well you shouldnt have put the dog pic up. but she was immature for not talking to u about it and wrong. so no you didnt go too far, just appoligize.

Anonymous · Answer

You didn't take it too far, she's just rude.  Instead of getting mad at her just laugh and say, "Ha ha don't I look soooooo terrible in these pictures!  I just woke up!!" And once she sees that you don't care about the pictures, she will not get the pleasure out of seeing you mad about them....and she might take them off.  :)  Good Luck!

Anonymous · Answer

if she apologises then forgive her if she does it again never talk to her ever!

if she doesnt then just leave it like it is...you didnt do anything wrong so dont go crawling back =]

Im a nobody! · Answer

Way too long.

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