What about this BS huh?

Don't let what he said to you ruin your marriage, just continue to show him love and see how it goes, even if you don;t feel love towards him right now. No One would buy someone an expensive necklace if they didn't love that person. His actions say he loves you no matter what he said.

I'm sorry you spent hours feeling like this, however, I don't get that your husband's comments are as negative you you perceived them and maybe just a bit insensitive on his part. After all men do speak a different native tongue - sounds like he was venting or being sarcastic - you should have said "honey, that sounds mean, what are you saying."

The one thing that fears me the most about being 24 y/o and planning to marry is when I read, hear and see couples who have been married as long as you have and there is still a failure or lack of communication. When your husband made this comment, instead of you getting clarity or addressing why he said it - you cried and hurt inside all day and that must have ruin you day - but in my culture we learn to take negative forces and redirect it into positive energy -I think if you spoke to your husband about this immediately - in a calm and preserved way - you might find out - it was not his intent to cause you the emotional pain you just described.

I hope that you both learn to COMMUNICATE your feelings better

Your husband cares for you and loves you, but not 'In Love with you'... more like loves you like a sister... and wants to make you happy... the necklace statement was just that you don't get the wrong impression. The marriage seems to be dissolving and it seems he's made up his mind. He doesn't want to mislead you regarding the present... ie.. mixed signals...so he just communicates the truth w/ you even though it hurts right now. Don't misintepret the meaning of the necklace and don't be in denial..

Don't know how you can stand living in the same house with him. Seems like this is emotionally unhealthy for you. Why not move out? Better yet, have him move out until the divorce, of that what you all plan to do. He seems to be throwing the situation as though you're powerless. How can you stand being around him? Probably easier said than done but plan to live under separate roofs. You're kids are at a decent age. I understand that there's no perfect age for divorce or separation but look at what you're going through. good luck.

Try reading/following The Love Dare book if you want to save your marriage. It helps if you're a Christian.

http://thelovedarebook.com/ about the book

In the movie, Fireproof, a young couple was having problems, and the father of the husband gave him The Love Dare book in order to help. The book worked for the couple; it's worked for other couples as well. You might want to try it.

Considering the traumas your family has been through it's no wonder your husband can't make a decision right now. Give him some time and space. He's still giving you beautiful gifts so you know he's thinking of you. Cut the guy some slack.

Talk to him and explain how you feel and how he made you feel. It sounds like he cares about you and has not made up his mind what he really wants.

You love him and want it to workout but he evidently is there for the children.

You sound way too young and immature to be married that long.

Wow...that is BS