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my friend is bi and i need help!!!?

me and my friend me taking a shower (were not lez),were 11& im almost 13,and she told me she was bi.. so i was like oh.... and she was talking 'bout her BF's and said he kissed me like this, and she kissed me... so i ducked but she got me on the nose... she wants me to let her kiss me and i said no.. we were getting dressed, and she asked me if i thought that was weird, i said no (i lied bc it is weird shes been my bff foreva and im just now finding this out). she said "what should i do?"... i told her to ask out a girl she liked and she said "okay, u wanna go out".. she was dead serious...

Now i really need help bc my mom invited her over to spend the night and im gunna feel akwardd...

ive talked 2 my mom and she told me not to take a showa wit her... but she tried to makeout with me and when she kissed me she said she felt a spark, and she keeps looking at me up dere and down dere....

i feel so akward becuase im completely straight.. i push her away all the time except sometimes she does kiss me on the lips:( its so freaky!! and i cant talk to anyone else...

thanx,

allygatorr

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  • 1 decade ago
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    you have to set some boundries. tell her you are straight and always will be. tell her to stop, or else you will end your friendship.

  • 1 decade ago

    I'm sorry you have to be in this situation because it's a difficult one. But if she's your best friend foreva, she'd stand by you if you tell her that your entirely straight and just want to be friends. Only hang out after school or something until you feel comfortable to have sleep overs or things like that. You have to tell her your not into her and your straight because if you don't she will keep this fantasy going. If you can't get through with her tell her one more time and that cut the communication. It is the hardest thing to do, but the right thing. She will then think about if ruining your guys's friendship is worth the trouble. And set boundaries if you do choose to talk to her. No touching no closeness no talking about intimate stuff. Whatever makes you comfortable.

  • ?
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    Sounds like she's having a huge crush on you. Often I would advise talk her out of doing it. But in this case .... stop hanging with her for about 2 weeks or so and lead her to realize that she is acting inappropriately. Then start talking to her again but keep a distance ... and if she asks why tell her because she is crossing the line. If she recognize it she will apologize and change. If not ..... gotta keep a distance til she gets over you. This sounds like the madness of someone having a crush. Once it goes away ... they wouldnt be craving much for you.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Ok it might freak u out, but understand. My best friend is straight, and I'm in love with her. I want to kiss her and everything, but I never would because that might mess it up. But, she seems to like you alot, so let her down easy. It hurts, believe me. But it'll hurt even worse if you ignore her, or treat her diffrently. It might feel a lil awkward, but try to act like she never kissed you or asked you out. It's the best way to do it. If she keeps kissing you even after you tell her you're straight and not intrested, then just ignore it. Let her kiss you [don't kiss back] and then just pretend it did'nt happen. She'll take a hint that you really meant it when you said you did'nt like her that way. If she does'nt stop, just tell her that you really like her [as a friend] and you don't want to do anything to mess it up with her.

  • Tom M
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    Talk with her, tell her you don't go that way. And is best not to shower together so as not to give her the wrong impressions or leading her on.

    Being her age her hormones are going wild and is easy to be impulsive and expect you and other girls to like it as she does.

    Just be respectful, and share your feelings.. if you want can stay friends,, and she needs to respect your feelings as well.

    If it works out and you can stay friends that can be good, if she keeps doing this to you or other girls, some may not be as nice to her and can make rumors, beat her up or worse :(

    Take care and good luck to both of you !!!

  • 1 decade ago

    First off you need to tell her that you are straight and that unwanted touching of any kind is a battery. Next, if she persists in trying to kiss you or touch you, your mother should not be making light of this--you need to tell somebody else in authority that she's inappropriately touching you.

    If need be, that can be a police officer, a school counselor or principal. If you have no other alternative, then hit her hard enough to make her stop and send the message that you don't want this kind of behavior. Its one thing to be gay and attracted to somebody, it is entirely another to continue to pursue them when they have made it clear they are not similarly attracted. It is yet another to engage in unwanted touching.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    All I can say is try to accept her for who she is, and try not to hurt her feelings. You can't help you love or feel strongly about. If you are uncomfortable with her kissing you on the lips then tell her politely how you feel. If she was really your best friend in the first place, she should understand that distance is needed. Good luck. :)

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Look sit down with her and talk to her communication in any kind of relationship is key and try to come to sort of an understanding and dont ruin a good friendship if possible.

  • 1 decade ago

    She is not your BF because you lied to her ! You can simply tell her that your not into that and if she wants to stay your friend then she will have to except that or take a hike OR you can talk with her, try it out then decide ! BUT no more lies !

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    if i was in your shoes as a last resort i would stop being friends with her. that creeped out, uncomfortable feeling is the worst. since she's been your friend forever shouldn't you be honest with her? just tell her she makes you feel uncomfortable when she's all touchy-feely, but u don't wanna make your friendship with her awkward at all. don't make it a huge deal. if she's a good friend then she'll understand.

  • 1 decade ago

    You can accept her , and still be friends. But have some ground rules; let her know that you are not like that . That your not interested in her like that , and that there will be no inapproiate touching or kissing.

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