Why do non-married couples last longer than married couples?

Shack up couples do not last longer.

Shack up couples, by their relationship, have a no fault mentality.

Either of us can split for any reason at any time.

And they are right, they can.

The marriages usually fail to follow the first basic rule of successful relationships,

Choose Wisely, Treat Kindly.

I have lived life on both sides of the line.

I chose wisely and I treat kindly.

And I would never go back to a shack up relationship.

"Why do non-married couples last longer than married couples?" Really? Do they? Can you name any unmarried couples that have 56 and 61 years together? Cause that's how long my parents and in-laws have been married. Myself am married for 25 years so far. My sister and brother-in-law celebrated their 30th Wedding Anniversary. Another brother has over 20 years too. Lots of others in my family have the same sort of longevity to thier marriages.

Perhaps what you fear doesn't have to happen if you choose more wisely in the first place, and with more commitment in the second?

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1. I am 70, and male. My wife is 69. 2.When we met, I was not a virgin. In fact, I was a widow. I had had 8 previous partners. 3. My wife was not a virgin when we met. I have no idea how many previous partners she had. It was not important to me. 4. We will be married 45yrs next month. 5 We were both non-virgins and we have had a happy healthy, long lasting marriage. We still have sex and she still makes me laugh. FYI - Our premarital sex together played a huge part in our falling in love and getting married. She was absolutely the most fantastic woman I had ever had in bed. She felt the same about me. We both wanted to f**k the other for the rest of our lives. If we not had previous partners, we would not have known how good the other was. If you read this section much, you will read about many couples who are not sexually compatible. Most of those were virgins when they married. It is better to find your sexual compatibility BEFORE the wedding.

non married couples last longer because they have nothing to loose (they're still trying to get married) and married couples feel like they went through so much to get chosen that after their married they were both used up and neither wants anyone any more. So you shouldn't DRAG it out for years and years and years because there's nothing new under the sun after you played house with it.

Paranoia Developer....that's catchy, but not cute.

It is exactly all you are trying to do to people and yourself obviously. Your dad must've been horribly sad he had you as a child...if he is telling you that your mother was expensive and you as his own child was "expensive as hell."

Marriage trap? wow. What else can I say really? It all depends on your beliefs, your religion, your up-bringing, and if you in the very depths of your heart feel like women are just money spenders, children come with a price tag, and all you can base your "marriage trap" theory on is your father's "advice" well then you come with very little faith, my dear friend. Love is a wonderful, powerful gift. And we are lucky to have marriage to unite us. It has nothing to do with breaking up. In fact, people who are married actually have a better chance at staying together than people who do not get married. Because, people who decide to not get married do not want commitment. And, if you really love someone, you'll do anything for them....including commitment. So...whats that really saying about the people who are afraid of marriage?? Well....that they truly love themselves more than who they are with. My point has been proven.

Aw, hon. Your dad's just saying that because he knows you'll never find a woman who will marry you. You know, it's because of your small ...... mind.

He's a good man to protect you like that.

Because with marriage comes the babies and children are not always a good thing for a couple.

Ridiculous.

There is no proof of that.

And marriage is not a trap.

Where is your proof?

What your dad told you is his skewed opinion of marriage.

be a loser and no woman will use you for money