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how to stay focused and rational when you are so sad?
So me and my hubs have just started TTC 2 months ago. The first month was sort of a fluke as we had just decided "to pull the goalie" but we actively tried last month. I know I am a rational person and didn't think it would actually take in the first month but I am really upset that I got my period yesterday. I don't know if it is because it was 8 days late so I got a little excited but I can't imagine month after month of this feeling. I am trying to be rational and calm about the whole thing but I feel like a failure. How do you stay focused and motivated after a BFN?
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- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
And remember that your husband loves you more than life it's self.
- Annabelle418Lv 41 decade ago
It's hard to stay rational when all it feels like you're doing is waiting for the next step of the process. And it goes by so slow... I tried for 3 months & 1 week before I got my BFP I cried to my mom. I was so tired of people asking me everyday if I was pregnant or not & feeling like a failure.
Next time we try for a baby I guarantee we won't be telling anyone we are trying.
It's not so much about staying focused, it's about doing things to keep the focus off of trying to get pregnant. I used that time to focus on getting healthy & I knew I wouldn't be able to after I was pregnant. Enjoy the time you have, because you're basically caring for this "being" as soon as you're pregnant & not just after 40 weeks.
It will happen before you know it & then you'll be waiting for the weeks to go by.
Good luck!
- Anonymous1 decade ago
I know that it can be hard and very stressful at times but trust me that it WILL happen. Me and my bf tried for about a year and half before I got pregnant with my first. I thought that I can never have children :( truth of the matter is when it is your time to have a baby you will. My son is now 21 months and I am pregnant with number 2 and couldn't be anymore happy. Good luck mama and just keep trying