My husband has friends i don't like...?

Three words: ESTABLISH FAMILY NIGHTS.

I think what's ticking you off the most is that your time with your husband come at a premium becuase he is only home on the weekend. You resent the fact he is spending that time away from the family.

Its a fair compliant and your husband may not even have a clue your perspective.

You complaining about the "friends" is just treating the symptom and not the cause. You husband feels he works all week and needs to unwind any way he sees fit. From his perspective, you are just being needy and a buzz kill.

To solve this, lay down the facts. He is home only on the weekend. His priority is to spend time with the kids so they know their father. They grow up so fast and you don't want your husband to miss out on their lives or your kids to see your husband as a stranger. Tell him you want him to have fun and it will be fine for him to hang out with these new friends, but allow the family to get time first with him. Most guys will understand this and even be a little flattered by it.

Work out that the first two weekends are family nights and the rest are whatever he wants to do with them.

To be fair, your husband has a right to have friends (as long as they aren't trouble makers to the family). He works hard from what you describe. Let's face it. Spouse sometimes confound us we their choice of friends (my wife's friends drive me homicidal at times).

Be fair to your husbands friends as long as your husband is fair to his family.

I know what you mean. My husband use to have a few friends that I didn't like when we were first together. I don't know how you are in general, but I am very outspoken and if it were my counter that someone was sitting on, I don't hesitate to say "get your @ss off my counter please, we have plenty of chairs and besides I prepare food there and it is very unsanitary". Then I would go on to further say "would you want your food prepared on a counter that someones @ss has been sitting on"? Next I would ask her to never wash her hair in my kitchen sink again. I would tell her about how I had to disinfect it and that again, it is unsanitary because it is a kitchen where food is prepared. As far as them sitting on your porch, ask them to please leave. Tell them that you would like some privacy with your husband. If they refuse to move, you can call the police and tell them that you have unwanted guests sitting on your porch. They will take care of the rest.

Your husband needs to understand that you don't want these third wheels always hanging around. I remember in my more younger and wild days, I ran off my husbands friends that I didn't like just by my rude and bad behavior when certain ones like the kind you described would come over and never leave. He didn't have too many like that, just a select few. They got tired of my attitude and quit coming over. I would do things like let my kids run wild and play in the living room when they were trying to watch a movie or when conversation was going on I would say things in a subtle way to insult the violator (visitor), and things like that.

Only you can put an end to this.

First of all... His being drunk is a poor excuse for his actions. If anything, then it only showed what he is capable of at all other times. His wife should be aware of this mans train of thought by now and therefore should have been disturbed in the least about what he did to you. You on the other hand may have carried it a bit far by slapping him, but understandably so. What you should have done is simply left and refused any further invitations concerning alcohol. This couple should be made aware that future actions like this will not be tolerated any further. Even if it was he feeble attempt at being funny while drunk. If everyone in that room were under considerable effects of alcohol, then you WERE in a room of adolescents. Just my opinion.

You should not accept this behavior from people in your own home. These people are seriously weird. There is something very very wrong with them. I have to ask if there is something more going on with this couple that your husband is not telling you?

You need to tell both these people that they are not welcome in your home even when your husband is there. You get very little time with him and to have to entertain two such disgusting individuals in your home is simply not on. This is your home as much as his and I would not want them there.

You need to make it plain to your husband that you are not going to accept this whatsoever. No more inviting them over. If they sit out the front of your home waiting for husband to arrive then call the police and have them charged with loitering. Let your husband know that you have done this as well as further proof you will not put up with this weird behavior and you don't accept these people being in your home or in your life.

Good luck. I hope it works out.

How extraordinary that they should sit at the front of your house waiting for him for hours, they sound like freaks and the sooner you get rid of them the better. But how? Mmmm a tricky one indeed. I'd be inclined to engage them in conversation as they're sitting on your front lawn and you pop out with the bins or something "Oh, you again, the kids and I are hoping to have Fred to ourselves this weekend, could you come over on Friday instead?" Before they can answer rush back into the house to answer the phone or tend to the kids. This should do the trick.

Ok im sorry but this woman is pissing me off and i dont even know her just by your story there^^ lol

Seriously girl, talk to her, or the two of them, and just ask them nicely to lay of the visiting a little, as you also need to spend time with your husband who you dont see much!

Hope it goes ok for you x

When they sit in your driveway waiting for you husband to come home call the police and have them removed from your driveway.

Tell them not to come by. That woman's actions (sitting on the kitchen counter; washing her hair in your kitchen sink) are unacceptable. Seems like she was raised by wolves.

Is he keeping something from you? Perhaps he is providing them with drugs? It sounds wierd that they wait for him and he allows it. They sound altogether strange and I would be flabbergast to have someone wash their hair in my kitchen sink...from the sounds of it they have lice! Put down your foot and demand this stop. I smell a rat...I think there is something behind this sudden bonding.

Put your foot down!

You don't have to be friends with the same people.

Have him meet them somewhere else, if he wants to spend time with them.

Your house is your sanctuary - you are not obligated to receive these unwanted visitors!