How do you stop fuming after your teenager has thoroughly ticked you off?

Well, I was in a similar situation once - except I was the teenager. It wasn't long ago actually, only about a week or two. Take my advice, she most likely wasn't doing anything bad if she's a 'good kid' as you say. I'm extremely innocent and I only lied because I wanted to avoid "the talk." You know, the sex, drugs, drinking (and all that jazz) talk. I told my mom I was going to a girls house when I was really going to a guys house. We didn't do anything bad, so if this is the case with your daughter don't make false assumptions. But anyway, this isn't about me....it's about your daughter. I think you should talk to her calmly and ask her exactly what happened, and that as her mother you deserve the truth. It will soothe your nerves to know. You're welcome. I hope it all works out! :)

- OCD.

I think i am a strict dad but as adults we know alot of the bad stuff that can and does happen to kids, especially if theyre not street smart. I think the grounding and punishment is a start and i hope you explained to her that because shes only 15 her actions not only affect you emotionally but could also be financially or legally or both your responsibility and her bad decision has taken her back on the trust scale quite a bit and now she gets to earn it back.. If she was my daughter, i would probably make her do a fairly legnthy book report on decision making and how she will form her decisions next time this same scenerio comes up. a book report on lying and the concequenses of lying and what she thinks should happen to her if she were the parent. just remember that the punishment needs to be dealt with so she really really remembers what happened last time and she doesnt want to go through that again. i cant answer how you should cool off though, good luck with that

well looks like she's turning into a teenager.

just let her know you dont want her to hide anything from you.

and tell her to tell you the truth no matter how bad it is and that you'd rather her ask you for permission to go somewhere [although it may not be a place you would normally let her go] but that you'd appreciate her coming to you and asking than hide something, because that should earn your trust.

communication is good. (:

plus since your still pretty upset just walk it off or something.

They think it looks sexy, and most teen guys follow them around like dogs just because there boobs and butts are hanging out. But the drinking ticks me off. And the sex. All the PDA. The smoking.

Make cookies for her in the morning.. Then you can take pride in the fact you did something nice for her after the way she acted.

shouldn't you be asking other parents? instead of teenagers who have done the same thing?

yay for teenage power !!

and once again, teenagers rule :)