Temper issues in 17 month old?

OMG i had to say you have just described my 18 month old daughter to a tee!

She does exactly the same thing, hits things, throws object and she gets frustrated very easily for small things like the shape sorters!

I am doing almost the same thing as you in that i just ignore the behaviour and she simmers down and eventually stops...

If the frustration is being caused by inability to do something or when she gets herself stuck in a situation then try to teach her how to get herself out of that situation so that next time she will know how to do it herself...

otherwise what you have said sounds good! I have also taken some advice from the others comments as it is a very difficult thing to deal with...

You're doing it right. The only thing that I think I might add is, it can be a good idea to talk to your daughter sometime when she's not in trouble about why you have the time-outs. That way she can understand that she's not being punished for the behavior, but that it's a time to calm down and think about what she did.

Our daughter did that too because her sister was 6 months older and could already tell us what she wanted effectively but she couldn't. Just be calm and patient and help her a little bit with the difficult task and keep praising her accomplishments. If it is really upsetting her change her focus to something new and different. Soon when she begins to use words this behavior will diminish. Until then ask her to show you what is upsetting her.

Our little Willow is also approaching two, and has a strong temper. The *immediate* result of an outburst is the naughty chair, she simply is made to stay in this chair for 1 minute, the immediacy is necessary for her to associate the behavior with the punishment since she's so young.

She is not bound or held down of course, free to get up, but she is immediately put back in the chair if she gets up and the minute starts over.

Once the minute is over, I re-enact the behavior saying it was bad and use 'no' which she's understanding now.

Eventually she'll graduate to the naughty corner hehe.

Good luck!

I think you are doing fine except it IS appropriate behavior for a 17 month old so after you could try saying something like "you were really angry about that weren't you."And give a bit of empathy because a tantrum is never pleasant for a toddler.Try giving some sympathetic looks during the tantrum too.You may feel like it's not helping but talking about feelings and being unconditional builds trust and in the long term eases a lot of a childs frustrations so calmer behaviour.Good luck.

Sounds like youa re doing the right thing although it is hard to ignore. What does she do after you tell her that was bad behavior. Does she act like she is in trouble or nothing happened. She may end up thinking that you are hugging her after she throws her tantrum because it was good?? Not sure.

Seems to me you're handling this perfectly. My son did this sort of thing too; and when they're this young they have no other way to express frustration. Good luck when she starts up with the loud, defiant, "NO!"

Ignore her.

She needs to be left alone so she can calm down. As long as she is not hurting herself, just step away and don't say anything to her until she has calmed down.

It sounds like your doing the right thing, keep up the good work and keep giving that lil one guidence and lots of love!!

Give her something that will distract her and be interesting like crayons, book, squeeky toy, juice (but not too much of the drink or food thing), musicical toy. I always try to give them 3 things they can do for every one thing they can't, like scream, or kick, or be anti social.