Am I being too pushy? (boyfriend question)?

Ok. The most respectful thing to do in this situation is to let him decide when he wants to tell his family. I understand your urge to get your relationship out, but some people don't move as fast as others (i.e. you). All you can do is encourage him. And accept whatever decision he makes. Now, if you have been dating him for more than a year, I can somewhat understand what you're coming from, but I'm not catching the vibe that you have been dating him for that long.

Trust me, waiting on him will be rewarding in the end. He'll be VERY grateful that you understand where he is coming from, and it will make your relationship stronger. I advise you sitting down with him and apologizing for being so...demanding. He will feel very relieved to hear this. And who knows, he may actually come to do it (once all the stress washes away).

Here's some advise, next time you want something out of him, ALWAYS, and I mean ALWAYS, encourage. Do not nag/scold. People are less likely to respond positively to nagging. By encouraging him, you're making him feel as if he has a choice in the matter and you're letting him know that you will be by his side regardless.

I wish you the best of luck.

Meeting and getting along with his parents is the important part. If the parental introduction was that big of a step for him you should take it slow with the less significant relatives. Let him settle into his new identity as gay son before he becomes the gay cousin and nephew.

He knows his relatives and he may be stressed about some history with some of them that you don't even know about. So yes, I think you're being too pushy.

First of all, if he is uncomfortable taking you to a family gathering and doesn't want to go, you should respect this. You must look at it from his point of view, it can't just be what you see. This could be something that deeply scares him, and you pushing him to go anyway is selfish. It takes two to tango, in every situation you must look at it from your own and his own points of view. Also, him being "out" to a certain extent is stupid. If you care about him and you want to make him happy, you must figure out how to deal with problems, not add to them. Getting upset that he is uncomfortable with his sexuality especially around his family, is also selfish. You need to gradually bring him to the level that makes him feel more comfortable.

Hope this helps!

Well when you have frequent family get togethers like this, I'm with you, I say just get "out" and get it over with. But I can sympathize on some level because there are a couple members of my family that I don't plan on ever coming out to because it's just unnecessary (ie, my 95 yr old great grandmother, who actually just passed away; my uber right wing grandfather who would completely disown me, but I don't see him very much anyway).

You just have to respect him because you love him and hope for the best. Holiday type times are always stressful on relationships I think.

well usually people care more about what their families think of them more then their friends. it sounds like hes afraid that he wont be accepted by his family which is probably important to him. its easier for others to be more open and come right out, but there are also other poeple who just need to mentally prepare themselves for when they come out. i wouldnt over push him, but just be there to support his decision making.