Partner has anger issues?

How do you deal with a partner who has anger issues? You bloody leave his dumb butt. If he isn't willing to help himself, then you may as well just leave, before he inflicts harm on you. Quit making excuses for him and just leave.

Firstly, if he can't see he has a problem then there is not much he can do.

Though, if he is not totally stupid he probably does realise he has a problem just doesn't want to admit it. Once he admits it he will have to start thinking he is responsible for his actions and he will have to do something about it if he wants to improve his relationships with others.

Trouble is if YOU point it out he may get angry with you.

Anger is generally not an emotion on its own but an expression of other underlying emotions, fear, hurt, humilation, mistrust, being let down, frustration, loss etc.

If a person hasn't learnt to express these emotions they come out as anger.

He may be bi polar but these changes tend to take days or weeks and swing more from depression to hyper active rather than angry. You are looking for an excuse for his behaviour perhaps?

The change from nicest person to angry man doesn't really take place in seconds, the change has probably been going on underneath with different thoughts feelings happening and being suppressed and appears to just surface in seconds. Kinda like a tsunami... it appears to explode in seconds but has been rumbling along for quite some time.

Start at the following website:

angriesout.com

it is a very good resource

it may take you to leave him to push him to a crisis point to get help, it would be better if he did this prior to that happening though

Video tape him as much as possible. Show him what he does. Talk to him at a calm time and let him know how his anger affects you. I hope you do not have children with him. Let him know you will never bring a child into a angry home. Not healthy for the mom or baby. If he wont get help then you have to decide of you can live with it. If not then you must leave. You can't change others. Are you married? If not then get the heck out now.

Bi-polar is not mood swings like that. When someone is bi-polar, they will go through a long period of time when they act one way, extremely depressed...and go through another long period of time where they act another way, mania.

Your husband has anger issues. If he doesn't want to help himself, what else can you do? Tell him you're leaving if he doesnt' make a change. What happens the next time he's angry? Will he hurt you? Do you want to take that chance?

A person that has anger problems like this needs to be adressed immediately// First you need to be seperated until this is addressed with the utmost priority// He will thank u later if he doesnt seriously harm u or ur children// Getting himself checked into a clinic or a place that will take men that has problems such as this is paramount in making sure that your relationship will be wholesome again, and he is restored to a healthy man// I dont have any negative things for him, just please get help for the sake of your wife and children, and yourself// Lots of luck and prayers//

This man obviously refuses as you say to gain some help. Like most men they bury their heads and won't admit that they do have problems and take a step toward mending what is wrong.

He will lose his marriage as their are very few people that will continue putting up with this type of behaviour.

This man will finally realise his anger issues have cost him everything.

He needs to seek professional help.

Best of luck.

You really need to stop looking for excuses/reasons for his terrible behavior. It doesn't matter how nice he can be..the fact of the matter is , he is unpredictable , and that is a red flag you must NOT ignore. If he wont address his anger problem , there is nothing you can do...but you can address why you are with a man like this. Don't be afraid to see it as it is....look to your long term future with this man , can you live the rest of your life with his anger ? because that's what you will be doing ..if he doesn't address this problem.

Next time he assaults someone, call the DA behind his back and ask them to make Anger Management part of his sentence. It won't be long.

No Annie you were rite the first time

He needs anger managment an it wood be so easy to get

if he has been to jail twice for assult !!

I just hope you aint got children ??

Not sure if he's technically bi-polar, but it sounds to me that he might be an "asshole" to use the clinical term.