To those who planned pregnancies...?

I didn't find my spouse while looking for "the future father to my child" however I did pick a good one. My first pregnancy was unplanned and sadly ended in the loss of a little boy, but it did make us both realize that we wanted a child sooner than we would have without the pregnancy. About six months after the loss, we got pregnant with our second son. My son is now 19 months old, and I couldn't ask for a better dad for him. Many of the qualities that make him a good dad are qualities that made him a good partner. He's loving, caring, sensitive to others feelings, and devoted. He has a fun, silly side, but also a serious, stern side. He always helped out with housework and is more than willing to not only feed our son, but change diapers, clean his toys up, bathe him, and play with him. The trait that really makes him a good husband and dad is that he would do anything in this world to provide for and take care of his family.

Well....I planned to meet a man I wanted to marry before having another child (I have a 6 year old from an old relationship also). I had a pretty specific list of all the things my future husband had to possess. When I found that perfect man, and we became intimately involved, I told him, I am not on birth control and if we are not using condoms, I will probably get pregnant pretty soon. A month later we had a positive pregnancy test. Got married when baby was 4 months old, and it's been 2 years since we got married. Almost 4 total, and yes, he is everything and more that I thought he would be when it comes to a husband and father.

If you are not married, then looking for a parent is not a good choice of words. A committed-to-family, dedicated-to-their-kids parent is also probably the person who will want to marry when starting a family that is prearranged. There are some great parents who are not with the mother's of their children, yes, but these great parents would also not plan to sign up for the obstacles faced by parents who are not together. These are usually chance pregnancies. If you do not have a committed boyfriend and want children, you can get satisfaction mentoring and/or fostering great kids who need you in their lives. Then, when the time comes and you meet someone who WANTS to be a COMMITTED PARENT, I'm sure you guys will have a wonderful family.

19 years together and just sort of knowing that he was the one did it for me. I know him very well and he is a great Dad!.

Neither one of my children were planned...with that said, they are the greatest blessings ever!!

someone i was married to...