If I can't forgive my ex-wife for her affair, will God not bless me with the new wife I want so badly?

First off, sorry to hear about the situation you are in.

It will be difficult to forgive, but think of all that God has forgiven you of.

Is it possible to forgive? Yes.

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. ~ Philippians 4:13

Through surrendering ourselves to God, He can change our heart.

How important is it to forgive?

For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses. ~ Matthew 6:14-15

Doing such is critical to your salvation.

"I so want the pain and loneliness to be over."

My heart goes out to you my brother. Know that people will let us down in this world, but Jesus will never leave us nor forsake us.

Keep your wants, your joys, your sorrows, your cares, and your fears, before God. You cannot burden Him; you cannot weary Him. He who numbers the hairs of your head is not indifferent to the wants of His children.

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Well, remember, God helps those who help themselves. So, the best way to get through this is to start living your life. Time and emotional distance will eventually allow you to put this behind you. Maybe even forgive her. Gos will bless you with a new wife, when you find the right person! But you have to find her for yourself.

Hello Steve

divorce is and exit and solution for un successful marriage so don't worry you will over come it as soon .

im muslim and if such situation happened then its Better to divorce rather than living with some one cheating me and its Better that you know that you re new wife will love you either you forgive you re old wife or you don't because all what happened was not you re fault and it was you re old wife fault so don't worry and try to stop thinking about thes subject and try to keep you re self busy with any Hopi or with gathering with friends and relative or reading useful book .

and start you re new life.

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my divorce will be final in 2 weeks. My ex was verbally and emotionally abusive to me and my 2 teenage daughters. I have the kids most of the time,but am very lonely.Friends tell me I have to forgive her in order to move on.I have always been a forgiving person,but after 18yrs. of bad marriage I am struggling to forgive.I pray to god that I can forgive her soon.

WAHT EVER YOU DO, NEVER TAKE HER BACK, from experience. It will take you about five years to completly move on. Remeber she left you much earlier than you might think, so it is much easier for her to move on.

You will never forget her, she is in your memory. However you will be able to get over her.

When you pray don't pray to get over her, pray for God to help you deal with the situation.

Has she asked you to forgive her, is she repentant for what she has done. If not what is there to forgive.

You will be able to move on!!!

And you will be a much happier person, you will.

When you began to seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness you will get over this. What is singleness? Jesus asked the man at the pool will you be made whole? The man gave him all kinds of excuses and just did not say, Yes. Lord I want to be whole. John 5:6. How long are you going to lay there?

Jesus said to the man take up your bed and walk. This man walked with his load. You will walk with your unforgiving attitude and anger. What if God never gives you want you want? What if you marry again and she is worse than her? He was ridiculed by the leaders in the church for carrying his load. Jesus saw him later and said Do not sin anymore are something worse might happen to you.

So you begged her to stay even when she was unfaithful. You need time to know yourself.You have broken faith with her and God. You need to spend time in the word of God and work it out with him and Christ. If you loved these more than me says God you are not worthy of me.

God allows things to happen in our lives to get our attention. You need to treat yourself with the kindness and mercy you should. Let go and let God. nothing in this world has happened to any of us that is not common to all men and women.

God is not going to carry you. God is going to caution you. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and get up and walk. Be thankful.it could have been worse. Men have been killed for less than that. Women and their lovers have killed their husbands and wives and fled. Selfish and uncaring. At least God showed mercy and grace on you. Read Matthew 5 6 7. You need to study the oracles of God.

If you feel this strongly about it, maybe you should try talking to someone. But I hope you know that clinging on to those negative feelings will only serve to pull you down and make you feel worse. Maybe her cheating on you was a sign that she really wasn't the right person for you. I believe that every person has a soul mate and maybe it was someones way of telling you that she wasn't the one.

you must forgive her so that God may forgive you when you need to be forgiven.

also when you forgive her, you will be able to heal physically and spiritually.

forgiving a spouse for cheating won't be overnight; it will take time. first, you

can stop hating her and then little by little let it go. give all your hurts and

pains to God and ask Him to help you to forgive her. when you start trying to

do what you can in order to forgive her, then the healing will begin and you

will start to feel a little better a little every day; just take it one day at a time.

may God heal you physically and spiritually and help you to forgive her.

i am not sure but you should believe in you new wife and hope for the best. it has not been that long its ok to still feel mad at her but just know your new wife is not your ex look to tomorrow and talk to someone it helps withe the loneliness.

Hate only hurts you and not the one you direct it at. Forget your ex and move on. Don't allow yourself to think about it. Forget her.