Good friend falling out... I want to repair our relationship. Please help!?

Just casually talk to her one day and say something along the lines of, "You know, I really didn't mean to offend you when I said those things. I was tired and frustrated because (your boyfriend's name) is tired and frustrated." and leave it open to her because, well 1. it really wasn't your place to tell her how to do her job and it sucks but unless you are a boss, then you shouldn't critque your friends. 2. Of course she is going to take it personally! You are her friend and you made her feel bad about her job! But the great thing about friends is that they tend to forgive and forget. Just remember not to attack her with defensiveness when you do talk to her. She may lash out a little because she is still mad but just let her know that you were sorry. It's the least you can do at the moment.

He is showing his age. Why are you into such a young guy with so many problems anyway. I suspect he would like some space. At 17 you don't know one end of your **** from the other and getting serious with an older guy is probably scary to him. From what you say about his background, he isn't used to haveing people care about him and that will probably freak him out. Don't just turn up unannounced, that's an invasion of his privacy. Give him some space and back off. If he likes you, he will come to you. In the meantime, try and find someone closer in age with fewer problems.

get people on her shift to collectively talk to her about the problem without your boyfriend s presence. her talking to others about your relationship will only put her in a bad light. they will see her as a complainer. if he is in charge of her, then he has to confront her with a written reprimand on her performance with evidence. finally, you need to ignore her until she grows up. be friendly but wait for her to throw out the olive branch