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I am 22 and av been wit my boyfriend for 4 yrs. We av 2 children (both unplanned). At the beginning of our relationship i was infatuated with him and pushed all my friends aside. I fell pregnant after 6months together and he got promoted at the same time. His job requires him to work long hours (6day weeks, 14 hour days) Durin my pregnancy i felt depressed and lonely. WE grew apart and i left him. He came cryin to me sayin things would change so i came bk. We moved and i went bk to work. He became very jealous and accusin me of cheatin. I wasnt allowed to socialize with any1. Not even my family.he didnt like me goin to stay with my mother. I was savin to leave him when i fell pregnant again.I had a difficult pregnancy and had to leave work. He never helped me throughout my pregnancy or had any involment in it. He came with me to the hospital when i was induced and made calls to work throughout the labour or read the paper. Asd soon as the baby was born he went to work. There were some complications and i had to stay in hospital longer than expected. He would come for an hour a day and my daughter was passed to  different family members as he wouldn mind her. My son is 6 months old now and he has barely spent a day with us. The only person i am allowed to see is his bosses wife or his mother. I try to see my family but it causes arguments. We very rarely speak to eachother and i feel like i am livin wit a stranger.
I know that i dont love him anymore but i still love the person i fell in love with and every now and then i get that person. I am unemployed and am not entitled to social welfare while im wit him. He is very well paid and fully supports me financially and i want for nothing. 
I want to leave him and have a happy life but im scared to be on my own wit 2 children. Also i worry about him if i did leave. He has nobody.His job is his life. 
I feel completely trapped and dont know what to do

? · Accepted Answer

Hello,

Please think about how you feel. You don't feel happy, the main reason you are staying is because you are scared. As long as his job will remain his everything, you don't have to worry about him.

I find it brave that you are still with him, I would have left. Perhaps, if you leave, you will feel a bit lonely in the beginning, but I am sure you will get through that, in the end you have two wonderful children.

If he's no longer in your life, you can make friends again, hang out with them, everything will change. Don't give up.

cornish · Answer

There are a lot of single girls with children.
Get out of there,phone social services and explain he is making your like unhappy and you are concerned children will suffer.
You will get help in finding a place,ask local C A B or local council for help.
C A B or local council number can be found by typing in C A B or local council phone number.
Do not stay living with someone who as no respect for you,and never go back to him.
You will get help in finding somewhere to live,and help with furniture if you need it.
And do not feel lonely,feel positive and if u use chat rooms and u get fond of a single male,plan to meet in a public place,not your or his home.
Trust others first,but if you meet someone go for a coffee by day,and stay where other people are.
99 per cent of males are safe and good to be with,and being honest upfront about children will either make a male still like you,or walk away.
So find out all you can,ask others about him if you use chat rooms.
I care about everyone,black or white,and common sence is best if meeting a stranger,who just might become your new lover.

W · Answer

the bestthing is to take care of him as much possible. If you give him love and respect he will definately take care of you and children...men hate argument...i think you are quet an emotional person....dont expect much from him....you have children to look after you do not have financial probelsm then relax and enjoy your self with your children....and when he joins you welcome him..even if he spend 1 day in a month wiht you or one  hour with you.....make it the most special/........if you love him respct him he will do so......if you start an argument again and again he will have a distance from u......

Crazzeee X · Answer

You are still so young to stay in such a situation. Either he changes his ways or you must step and take your kids with you

THX 1138 · Answer

You really put the cart before the horse in this relationship.

Sawyer · Answer

doesnt that tell you something if his job is his life?? your not 
it should be you and your kids

you need to leave him and never look back. 
move in with your mum for support if needs be

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