In a sex only relationship, does a person have a right to tell you when you should go to bed, that you spend?

Ah, see, you didn't take my sage advice! Slow and steady wins the race.

No, it seems you have a psycho on your hands -- AND it will only get worse once you cut him off.

You do remember my "Fatal Attraction" questions?

There is a whole handbook how to let a lover loose without finding your pet bunny in a boiling pot. Tread carefully!

I'm sure someone else already told you this, but extremely bad signs here. I don't know why you're divorcing your husband, but if it is because of some of these issues, then you are just setting yourself up for some more. I won't pass any moral judgments on whether you should be in a sexual relationship before the divorce is final, although personally I don't believe in sex only. I realize that not all people, marriages, and life situations are the same. In your case, however, for your own sake, I think you need some time to yourself before you even think about having another relationship. If you've already initiated a divorce, get it finalized and behind you. Whatever you do, tell this control freak to take a hike. He's not the "reality" you need.

edit: I read the other answers, and if this is your husband, then I guess my advice would essentially be the same. Don't put up with it. If I had it to do over again, I'd have let my divorce go through a couple years ago. He went back to his same selfish, controlling, manipulative ways. Life is too short to live continually measuring up to someone else's conditions and standards. It also would make it very unhappy. Be yourself and if he doesn't like it, he knows where the door is.

Don't know when your birthday was, but heard it was in Jan. so Happy (belated) Birthday from me, too!

Okay, well your additional details add a different light on the subject, but it does not change the fact that I missed your birthday, sorry.

Well, this really depends on your special friend and what your wanting from him. If he is just a sex toy, then you can put up with his controlling issues on occasion. If you wanting him to be your next ex, then I would drop him now and find a more relaxed guy whom only has interest in your happiness. Good luck.

NOBODY has a right to tell YOU what to do, where to go or when to do it. The only people that get away with this is when the other allows it for some reason. Some people like to be controlled and not have to make their own decisions (nothing wrong with that, as long as both parties are fine with the situation). When one party is not in agreement, conflict starts and the relationship (regardless if its a marriage, boyfriend/girlfriend, boyfriend/boyfriend, girlfriend/girlfriend or friends with benefits) starts to deteoriate.

Your question is probably a symptom of underlying issues in your marriage. Without creating a big deal, try speaking with your husband (when he is in a good mood). Utilize the scenario where you relate how it makes you feel when he says "this" or does "this". Explain what you want, then listen to him and give him feedback. Be prepared to utilize professional services...most couples won't or don't want to put forth the effort on thier own.

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it may just be a matter of bitching that ur on too much, but i havent seen u in a while since u emailed me with the events of december.

i do see what u mean about the money thing though, u know my past. dont worry though, if its a 'sex only' thing, then he may only have the right to ask u try a new position!! :p

hope ur doing better, lemme know.

and in case u didnt get it, happy birthday for yesterday.

You "feel" like he might be controlling? Ummmmm yeah. I can't ever seem to answer it for myself when I'm in your shoes but I can pin point a control freak for others any day.

The ones who tell you he is a psycho are right. It will take strength and courage. GET OUT NOW!

He's controlling.

Well first let me wish you a belated birthday. Now to answer, yes my dear you do need to get out from under this type of stress. You deserve more out of life, if a divorce is the answer, then step up and make the move.

You need more than insight from someone on the interenet. You need a wake up call on "he's not that into you". Read the book and learn to make better decisions.

http://books.google.com/books?id=9B-2x8kPnW0C&dq=h...