Is this the same as 'putting out' on the first date?

If you like a guy then it is better to play hard to get. That way they want to hangout with you more and get to know you. Guys don't want a relationship with a girl that they think is easy. At least you didn't have sex with him so you didn't really "put out". He sounds like he is a jerk anyways. Just forget about that guy. Next time that you find a guy try to go slow. Guys are more interested in girls that take it slow. If you let them do things to you on the first date then they will do it and then forget about you. Believe me, I know from experience. I kept looking for love in all the wrong places. Next time, don't even kiss on the first date unless it is a slow peck. Take it real slow and he will keep coming back. Always leave them wanting more. Good luck.

He probably doesn't respect you anymore. Some women don't even kiss on a first date, much less all of that. Chemistry is just pheromones that cause an attraction. Sex should wait until two people feel like they know each other well enough and feel comfortable with each other. You did everything but give him sex. Sex might have been what he was after in the first place, but if you had not gone that far, at least you would have known without him making a fool out of you.

Slow down and let the guy prove he cares, before you get too close. Life is too precious to allow yourself to continue to be used by guys. Now you are miserable, and he is probably bragging about what he got, and saying he actually had sex with you. If he was that forward in the first place, I would not give him too much credit for being mature and respecting your privacy.

Don't punish yourself too badly, however. We all make mistakes. Just learn from it.

No, its not the same as putting out...but your personality must have given him the idea that if he kisses you long enough, he can get you there and, well, he was right. And if you didn't feel 'chemistry' why the hell would you let a guy feel you up or put your hands down his pants....ewwwwww. And now you have not heard from him...smh...I wonder? Anyway, maybe he'll call you later during the week. I mean, when your texting someone everyday and then meet, the climax has come and gone. Its hard sometimes to get that momentum going again unless there was 'immediate chemistry'. Obviously, the 'chemistry' you didn't feel, he didn't either, and lets face it, guys really don't need 'chemistry' to feel a girl up, do they? So you kind of step into that one. I don't know why girls don't get this about most men.

Something tells me it wasn't just A drink, was it?

All the same alcohol loosens inhibitions, and is prone to making people either really keep their guard up or drop their defences totally.

Unfortunately I think you may well have been used on this one. The trick is to avoid alcohol altogether when you start going out with someone, and when you have a certain degree of trust with that person, then you might want to consider going for stronger stuff than just coffee or coke!

You don't necessarily need to drink alcoholic stuff to have a nice time.

Paris....that was a serious generalization. I'd sooner have the chemistry than none whatsoever!

Well i hope he bought the drinks cause what a jerk

no that wasnt putting out there is a difference in what you did and putting out

you gave a sample of what would have been put out

he's a jerk dont give it a second thought

which might be hard because you feel awkward about how you acted

DONT you had fun leave it at that

But you didn't put out.

So it's not the same.

Things did not get too deep.

So there was touchy-feely!

So now you know where the next date will start!

So he wont text any more?

He is just a player.

Shame on him.

If you see him just smile and don't say anything.

He should treat you better.

And until he does, don't go out with him again.

Putting out is going all the way

Easy? Absolutely. Easy as pie.

You got used

sorry

yes it is!