Idk if he even wants to be with me anymore???

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Me and my bf are 18...His parents are very strict and basically found out that we've been having sex. Long story... anyways, we've been dating awhile but i haven't met his parents and now i can't. They want him to break it off with me and took away everything to where he can't contact me at all. He lives an hr away from me. I haven't talked to him in over a week. the last thing he said was that his parents knew everything about us and that they are gonna kick him out if he doesn't break up with me...but he told me he won't that we just gotta lay low for awhile. That was over a week ago tho and idk how he's feeling now. I'm his first gf and i know he loves me. I just dont know if he thinks im worth fighting with his parents over. Its hella hard to think about because there's nothing i can do. He's getting all these punishments and idk whats going on. Im planning on showing up at his school this week and making sure were on the same page. I hope that he doesn't give up on us. Do u think we should fight thru this because we are adults and we should beable to date who we want or should we respect his parents wishes?

turbo12 · Accepted Answer

Yeah definitely fight through it.  He said lay low for a while.  Guys often can think a week is a short period of time while it can be forever to a girl.  He wants to be with you...you guys just have to figure out how to make things work now.

colostomy_punch · Answer

His parents were probably be angry because 1. it was probably in their house, 2. they don't want their son to get a girl pregnant, 3. they may feel the old "you're under my roof you do as I say" parental thing. I would give it time to cool off. You're both 18, shouldn't you be going off to college soon anyway? Or moving out? I think it's odd that his parents think at 18 he wasn't bound to have sex at some point, but all parents are different. I wouldn't test the waters too soon but seeing him at school may be the best idea because you wouldn't be invading his parents space.

AJ · Answer

Its hard to say.  Because he needs to live with them for now.  You sometimes have to suck it up and respect a parents wishes if you need to keep living under their roof.  Yes youre 18, but until you both get your own homes or apartments, you arent completely free of them.  they will always have this to hang over your head;  "if  you dont respect what we want,then we're kicking you out."  Its ridiculous that you cant have a relationship. Although you are still in school, so having sex brings up issues of pregnancy and std's to your parents mind.  They dont know about him and they dont know about you.  So, I would touch base with your BF, because if he cant date you anymore, it'd be good to have closure.  Or you can write to each other and wait out the rest of the school year so you can be together.  It all depends how strongly you two feel about each other.   If your love is true, then it will stand the test of having to wait for each other.  It has been done before.  Good luck to you two.

? · Answer

Ahhh...the wastefulness of young love. I have a better idea. Why don't you enjoy being 18 ( a legal adult in North America) and go out! Do some fun things. Go camping, on road trips, to music festivals! How about not wasting your youth on someone you're not going to stay with for the rest of your life?

He's 18 years old..he can legally sign up for the military and kill people for this country or be tried as an adult if he commits murder, but he can't get out of his parents grounding him? Fight through what? The inevitable? 

Go do some fun things. You don't need this baggage now. You have the rest of your life to be committed and monogamous and blah, blah, blah. I have CD's older then you. Enjoy your youth. It's slipping away every year...

FranklinF rules the world · Answer

you are grown, if he wants to live in his parents home he has to fallow his parents wishes, if you dont mind a homeless boyfriend then stay with him. you can cool things off for a while. how much time until you two can be together months college or the time to break free of the nest is near. just chillax and enjoy the time

6986isin · Answer

As much as it hurts you might want to abandon ship now before you get hurt alot worse.  He doesn't have the love for you that you have for him, if that makes sense. Hate to say it but I predict that he has lost interest, or there's another girl. If I were you I would hang back but don't accuse him, that's just his way out when it comes time to break up w/you and make it all your fault. I could be way off but I don't think so.

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly just ask him straight up, otherwise you'll just be making assumptions.

Anonymous · Answer

The best thing for guys is to get with chicks and hit it and then quit it.

Answer mines please.

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phuc p · Answer

honey! watch out if he tricks into believing that his parents dont want you, he might have others plan, anyway good luck

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