Yahoo Answers is shutting down on May 4th, 2021 (Eastern Time) and beginning April 20th, 2021 (Eastern Time) the Yahoo Answers website will be in read-only mode. There will be no changes to other Yahoo properties or services, or your Yahoo account. You can find more information about the Yahoo Answers shutdown and how to download your data on this help page.

Are all Pakistani/Indian (Muslim) men unfaithful when in arranged marriages?

I once worked with a married Pakistani, Muslim man, who would not take "no" for an answer. He insisted and insisted (for months) until he finally caught me at a vulnerable time. His lust was so intense that Ramadan did not even stop him from flirting and getting with me. He claimed he's in an arranged marriage and does not even love his wife and even went as far to tell me he fell in love with me. I warned him that he is still a married man, and confessed I did not feel comfortable having an affair with him, but this did not stop him. He continued to flirt with me, IM-ing me and texting me on a daily basis and I eventually grew feelings for him.

I made sure I knew where we stood. I asked him whether we were friends and argued that friends do not kiss nor are intimate and he answered he had not looked at me as a friend ever since the affair started. After I gave him an ultimatum, that's when he confessed he did not have the balls to leave his wife, adding his concern for his son and dependant parents. Why would a man who already knew the consequences of his actions, not have the intention and/or nerve to leave his wife, when he had the nerve to cheat on her? Especially a man of his nationality/religion? I am Latina and this was my very first experience with a Pakistani, Muslim man and I must say, it was very disappointing. Why even bother with the arranged marriages if they don't even stay loyal? I honestly thought they took their religion much more seriously, especially since they fast for an entire month. I guess it's like most religions: HYPOCRISY.

6 Answers

Relevance
  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    YES

  • 5 years ago

    First of all if a mother really loves her child, she will never have any problems with accepting that other girl. However, the muslim-community has quite different views in that respect. i don't condemn these views, but neither i can accept them. I am christian and I grew up in Europe in a reasonable conservative Christian family. This means that people love and care and respect eachother. That also means that you have your own choice, whether your parents want you to marry this or that person, you can say no. And it also happens that families in the West push their child out of that "caring" nest for disobeying. But for financial reasons. Where in the Islamic world it is more than only finances. It is also about people you know and "can" thrust. That is why you have those weddings inside the family. Which should not be allowed from a natural point f view, but from cultural side it is not thaat weird. I as a Christian man should never force my daughter nor son into a marriage.

  • 1 decade ago

    Nah!

  • Dave
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    no not all just some its mainly a stereotype

  • How do you think about the answers? You can sign in to vote the answer.
  • 1 decade ago

    indians aren't muslim, middle easterners are muslim

  • 1 decade ago

    no no definetly not..itss a stereotype..

Still have questions? Get your answers by asking now.