People in long relationships/marriages: If your partner had cheated on you with ONLY one person?

My 1st husband was a manwhore. He cheated on me from 6 months into our marriage till the end of it 4 years later. I threw him out everytime I found out but always let him beg his way back. Finally, I decided it was done. I couldn't even look at him anymore. I never forgave or forgot what he did and I never will. With hubby #2, he was out as soon as I found out the first time. I now have #3 and I think he'll be a keeper. We've been together for 6 years now and I've never been suspicious (I'm an expert at detecting the signs now). But to answer your question, no I wouldn't forgive. I'm jaded and apathetic (thanks to hubbies 1 & 2). In my experience, it won't happen just once and I don't want to waste anymore time on losers.

@ SuziQ: I got #2 with a tire tool...it does help ease the frustration!

Forgive?...maybe.

Forget?....never

Stick around? Not a chance

The other person doesn't matter, the sex doesn't matter, and how long it lasted doesn't matter. All that matters is that the person is a cheater, and it's been my experience that if you keep a cheater - they will do it again.

If I found out it was going on for years, there's a very good chance that someone would wind up getting wacked with a baseball bat...or maybe a golf cub...yeah...make that a woods:)

for three years you say. are you retarded or just blind. i would have thrown that loser out to the curb as soon as i heard about the cheating. and to think you really don't know the difference. remember once a cheater always a cheater. and if you stay then you are lacking self-esteem and confidence in your self. you probably think that if you lose this loser you will never find some one else. then you are in big trouble cause as soon as this person has you where they want you. it will, not probably, it will happen again and if you don't mind the pain and hurting that it produces, then stay but then you become the loser cause you allowed it. so good luck to you and i hope you make the right decision and move on. remember to love your self more that the other person this way moving on will be easier. peace out!!!

The reason that my marriage has lasted is because I knew going into to it that women will never forgive an unfaithful husband, no matter what the circumstances may be.

If it has been going on for three years, it sounds like he or she has developed an emotional connection to the other person. It would be hard enough to move on in a relationship after just one discretion, but after a three-year affair, I think it would be time to call it quits.

Yes. It is the real world, not some fantasy filled with rational perfect people. Humans are what they always were. I would be very hurt, the relationship would never be exactly the same.

Three years is a very long time .. A person that can keep something going for that long without getting caught is someone that you really gotta watch out for.

a liar

a sneak

...not a good combo for a relationship.

I may or may not forgive depending on the circumstances. But I would leave either way.

It would be a GOODBYE from me. If it was a drunken kiss or something I would try to forgive, but I probably couldn't.

its not because I am cruel and can't accept him but I have no love left for the person who cheated on me.