How do I get my husband back?

It is already over- he slept with someone else. It does not matter what the reason. That saying that he will always love you is just lip service. If you want to, let him date you but never consider a real relationship with him. Do not be so accessable to him, he does not deserve it. He could have made an effort before the seperation and didn't so that speaks VOLUMES. He had sex with sombody in less than a week after moving out- seriously think about it, He had this planned long before or was already stepping out and the seperation was just a way for him to purge his concience. The only reason he told you was to hurt you.

Start dating and do not let him know until you "accidentally" run into him somewhere.

Or even better after you find someone you like to date, make plans to have a family outing and bring your date along.

Old habits are hard to break but tough it out and find someone who would never want to have sex with sombody else besides you.

You see him more now than before the seperation....That also speaks VOLUMES. in a bad way- This guy is playing games with your life. Don't let him.

Its a precarious situation to say the least. I would just go with the flow right now since the truth is that you are seeing more of each other and enjoying the company. If this groove keeps up, then maybe have a talk with him in the future and tell him that you want to work things out.

I would be cautious to put any pressure on him at the moment, since that might have the opposite effect of what you desire. It might kick him into "flight mode" since it seems that he wants some space, even if it is mental space.

Not knowing what is going to happen and being in limbo sucks, but I hope everything works out for you.

Be patient and build a good history. However at the end of the day you two need to resolve your issues whatever it may be. Trust is important, but do you want him back bc he's not available? Say you got back together, will you be able to trust him for his actions with another woman? Will that ever come up in an argument? The funny thing is that I think you shouldn't focus so much on the relationship rather focus on yourself. If you can do that I feel everything will be clearer. I personally don't believe you need to be together to provide a healthy environment for your kids

I've said this over and over on here but you must have missed it.

Most men want three things from a relationship and if you give them to him you can slut proof your marriage and won't be able to get rid of him. Sex, respect and admiration.

I think you got the first one figured out but, the last two you can't do with nagging about how he's messed up. You praise him for what he does right and he'll work harder just for your admiration and respect.

If he only moved out a week ago and has already been with another woman, it is likely he was with her or others before moving out. Take care of you. He's thinking of himself; you need to do the same for yourself.

Like you said the more steps I take to become independent and strong the more he seems to be drawn to me.

Start getting you together and being happy with being you and then you can consider how you can make him more happy

Just keep doing what you are doing :) Smile, be happy to see him. Flirt a little. Forget all the nonsense that you were arguing about and just enjoy his company. He will come home. And you will be stronger and more confident. You guys can make this work and it can be better than ever! Good luck!

Ask him back for the shake of the children to put the family back. Sounds so selfish. You need to make some changes of yourself. We heard one side of the story..

DO NOT ask for him to come back. Keep doing what you're doing. He will see who he loved and want to come back on his own. IF you ask him to come back he will go into 'caged puppy' mode and try to wriggle free. Show him how independent you are and don't ask for him back. Tell him that you still love him so he knows your feeling but no more than that. Things will turn around!!

You need to ask him if he would be willing to go to marriage counseling instead of throwing in the towel that you DO love and miss him and you are sorry for the way you treated him.